tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304364402012-02-03T10:54:29.243-05:00<a href="http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/"><img src="http://www.polyamoryonline.org/images/banner.gif"></a> <br> <b>Polyamory in the News!<br>  . . . </b><i>by Alan</i>Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.comBlogger5951100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-24652473046529160912012-02-02T08:04:00.012-05:002012-02-03T07:58:11.023-05:00

National Post (Canada); SlateThe National Post, a major conservative newspaper in Canada, has picked up a Slate article about patriarchal polygyny and a new study on why it's bad for the societies of which it's a part. The article gives a backhanded acknowledgment to us polys, but it fails to discuss the radical distinction between multiple wife-ownership in religious or pre-modern cultures and

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-56878701059642593892012-01-31T23:05:00.001-05:002012-02-02T08:03:24.754-05:00

Ebony"Black America has a fierce attachment to monogamy, as our religious and cultural roots shun the idea of polyamory, which is the practice of having more than one open relationship at a time," writes a columnist in Ebony, the best-known African-American magazine (circulation 1.2 million). She argues that it's time to consider the matter more widely.Why I Won't Bow To Monogamy'You and me'

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-15039660496480328882012-01-30T12:04:00.020-05:002012-02-01T12:04:09.547-05:00

Tampa Bay TimesThe Tampa-Orlando axis is not a stronghold of alternative culture. This morning it's in the national news as being the home to nearly half of Florida's Republicans. But it has had an active poly social scene for many years, thanks in part to Shara Smith, Franklin Veaux, and others in and around their network.Today, the day before the crucial Florida Republican primary, Smith forms

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-65518788286635818382012-01-28T13:16:00.004-05:002012-01-29T08:22:37.840-05:00

Winnipeg Free PressIt's been more than a week, so the obligatory Gingrich reference is buried far down in this excellent profile of a group household and others in the warm poly network of icy Manitoba.The Winnipeg Free Press is the province's leading and oldest newspaper. Today's Saturday edition serves the role of a Sunday newspaper elsewhere. The article is on the front page of the E section.

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-75080349389592781162012-01-26T20:25:00.013-05:002012-01-29T07:52:29.178-05:00

Piles of new stuff are arriving!● This website will be mentioned all across Canada in tomorrow morning's Globe and Mail, Canada's leading national newspaper — in one of the post-Gingrich articles that are coming out all over about open marriages and people who make them work (or don't). But they got the URL wrong, wouldn't you know. (They eventually fixed the online version.)Open marriage: Who

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-44933210099844608132012-01-22T20:03:00.013-05:002012-01-27T07:25:14.195-05:00

"Open marriage" rocketed in Google News rankings after Newt Gingrich's second wife dropped her bomb on Thursday and he responded with a flame-throwing condemnation of... the news media. Amid the attention, advocates of healthy, ethical open relationships and polyamory have been seizing this chance to tell their stories of how it can be done right — with agreement and caring and kindly love all

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-80882017524467327562012-01-21T10:38:00.014-05:002012-01-27T07:25:14.197-05:00

The Newt Gingrich open-marriage story is creating a huge public opportunity to talk about, in pointed contrast, ethical and successful non-monogamy. The Polyamory Leadership Network (PLN) is buzzing right now about all the coverage and opportunities.For instance, Sarah Taub and Michael Rios got themselves into a press release put out by the Institute for Public Accuracy, which promises reporters

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-23378514919073277272012-01-20T10:20:00.019-05:002012-01-27T07:25:14.200-05:00

Of course you're following the Newt Gingrich circus. Last night, two days before the crucial South Carolina Republican primary, Gingrich's second wife Marianne went on TV to say he asked her for an open marriage so he could carry on his affair with Callista Bisek, who became his third wife. When asked about it at last night's Republican debate, Gingrich furiously turned a righteous tirade of

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-9699910494338549232012-01-17T23:29:00.011-05:002012-01-21T12:14:25.267-05:00

The American Conservative, and elsewhereI guess we must be getting somewhere if we're in the presidential race. Here's Rick Santorum being interviewed by Glenn Beck on Fox News a while back:SANTORUM: ...We went from Lawrence v. Texas to now a Constitutional right to same sex marriage and they’re going into a Constitutional right to polyamorous relationships. This is the slippery slope that we’re

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-6882258592948719422012-01-10T22:08:00.024-05:002012-01-31T07:23:24.246-05:00

The National Geographic ChannelUPDATE: The show re-aired January 24th, according to the National Geographic Channel's schedule. It will air again on January 31st at 6 p.m. Eastern and Pacific time.----------------------Would you and your polyfamily dare to be followed around and filmed by the National Geographic for a show called "Odd Couples," on a cable series called "Taboo," which is about

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-63307781349428344032012-01-10T02:34:00.015-05:002012-01-12T16:00:44.776-05:00

● Tonight (Tuesday Jan. 10) the National Geographic Channel airs a segment about a longterm California polyfamily (above, from the NatGeo site) that it filmed last June for its "Taboo" series. "Taboo" is on at 9 p.m. Eastern time; see schedule. The polyfamily segment seems to be the last of three in the one-hour episode, which highlights. . . umm. . . unusual people and practices. The episode's

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-26467422228678527572012-01-08T16:55:00.000-05:002012-01-08T16:55:00.622-05:00

Washington PostRemember the story of retired Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor and her husband with Alzheimer's? He fell in love with another woman at his nursing home, and O'Connor gave her blessing.Today's Washington Post Sunday magazine presents an even more powerful story in the aftermath of a brain-injury tragedy. Robert H. Melton, one of the Post's leading writers and editors (at

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-26287365783019491592012-01-07T21:00:00.007-05:002012-01-09T08:34:28.778-05:00

Dan Savage is America's most visible advocate right now for negotiated non-monogamy. He invented the term "monogamish" for strongly hierarchical open relationships, and the word seems to be taking hold — joining his previous additions to the English language santorum, pegging, saddlebacking, campsite rule, etc.For his alt-newspaper column this week, Savage invited open couples to tell their

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-66285964491582968332012-01-04T00:01:00.035-05:002012-01-13T07:59:59.149-05:00

When it rains it pours!● Jaiya Ma writes that her triad family is about to appear on ABC's Good Morning America this morning (Wednesday Jan. 4), and then on ABC's Nightline. UPDATE: Their Nightline appearance has been postponed to Friday Jan. 6 (11:35 p.m. Eastern time). UPDATE AGAIN: Nope, it didn't air then either; apparently it's been delayed again.They're certainly making the rounds; see for

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-27081578494462005812012-01-03T07:07:00.006-05:002012-01-03T08:15:46.799-05:00

I didn't pay attention to Love Times Three: Our True Story of a Polygamous Marriage when it came out last September. It's the story of Joe, Alina, Vicky, and Valerie Darger, a Mormon polygamist family of the independent, Sister Wives variety living in the Salt Lake City suburbs like many others.But people say that the Dargers' daily lives and issues parallel the lives of modern secular

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-27458678757250178752011-12-31T13:15:00.004-05:002012-01-05T08:18:20.221-05:00

Now (Toronto)I've expressed concern that the word polyamory could lose its meaning as it spreads into careless general use. Here, an advice columnist corrects the same thing happening to compersion, another word that used to be in-group jargon but is becoming more widely known and employed. "Sasha" is a sex-advice columnist for Toronto's big news-and-entertainment weekly Now. She has been

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-3305152065068306242011-12-28T07:28:00.016-05:002011-12-31T15:06:48.801-05:00

Two days ago I put up a bunch of student-newspaper articles about polyamory. Continuing the theme, here are some more Next Generation items I thought were especially interesting (this is nowhere near complete).1. Laci Green, "secular humanist and sex-positive hostess of YouTube's weekly webshow Sex+" (and an ex-Mormon) explicates poly in 4½ minutes:This went up 18 days ago and has had 50,000

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-52650003802849423892011-12-26T04:58:00.005-05:002012-01-18T22:51:07.716-05:00

"This is my poly dream: that every college student in America will know the word polyamory and what it means within five years." So declared Diana Adams at a Loving More conference 3¼ years ago.More progress has happened in this direction than I expected at the time. As the poly universe grows, its average age definitely seems to be trending down. For instance, the fastest-growing poly site on

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-5257077779756142482011-12-21T07:08:00.003-05:002011-12-27T21:52:02.918-05:00

Tonight is the longest night of the year. The solstice happens tonight (December 21-22) at 12:30 a.m. Eastern Standard Time, when the sun reaches its southernmost point for the year and begins its seasonal return with the promise of new light and warmth to come. Such is the root and symbolism behind the season chosen for Christmas and many other festivals of light and hope in this darkest time of

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-14678920636692096762011-12-20T17:20:00.001-05:002011-12-20T17:23:16.073-05:00

The Grid (Toronto Star)An online city magazine run by the mainstream Toronto Star interviews members of a prominent local poly household. The wife runs the non-monogamy blog Not Your Mother's Playground; maybe you've seen it.The swing of itHow do you open your marriage to multi-partner loving? Our Sex Detective investigates.By David PatersonHere’s a dilemma. Imagine you came home one day to find

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-56313871181654808962011-12-19T23:29:00.012-05:002011-12-27T14:42:35.119-05:00

National Geographic Channel: "Taboo"Last April the Australian film company Beyond Productions went nosing around the poly internet world seeking a polyfamily to film for the National Geographic Channel's "Taboo" series.Warnings about this offer spread faster than the offer itself. "Taboo" shows creepy and/or attention-getting anthropological practices, from live-octopus eating to Santeria animal

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-74770453271088792282011-12-18T15:00:00.003-05:002011-12-20T17:26:32.150-05:00

New Zealand HeraldOne of the many places reprinting the U.K.'s recent Independent article on open marriages (the one starring Jenny Block) is "New Zealand's leading metropolitan newspaper" — which, this Sunday morning, adds a side article about a local triad:Kiwi 'triples' say that monogamy is not for allSteve sleeps with his wife every second night. The other nights he is in the next room,

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-4116920083477207572011-12-16T21:08:00.010-05:002011-12-24T10:51:55.788-05:00

Based on the fantastically popular book, the Hollywood version of "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" opens in movie theaters this Wednesday, December 21st."Around 27 million [other sources say more than 65 million] copies of the books comprising Stieg Larsson’s Millennium Trilogy have been sold worldwide to date," writes Ludi, an organizer of the U.K.'s OpenCon, in a timely essay at Polytical ("

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-250339797938064802011-12-15T21:31:00.001-05:002011-12-15T22:48:16.476-05:00

You know there's getting to be a lot of us when we land in the news for random reasons. This from a news service covering neighborhoods in Manhattan, New York:Muggers With a Fake Gun Thwarted by Polyamorous Inwood FamilyINWOOD — Police are looking for three suspects who attempted to rob an Inwood family with an L-shaped piece of plastic they hoped would be mistaken for a gun.The polyamorous

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-46298916162787981442011-12-14T18:37:00.003-05:002011-12-14T22:06:56.075-05:00

The Independent (U.K.) and othersJenny Block, author of Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage (2008) gets star billing in a long, positive article in one of Great Britain's most respected papers. (This is the article that prompted the Irish Independent cluelessness described in my previous post.) She tells us, "It was reposted all over the place, including Forbes and the Canberra Times in

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-22491378641714258532011-12-14T11:33:00.009-05:002011-12-14T16:26:03.457-05:00

The Irish IndependentIn Ireland the poly movement is in its infancy but definitely alive (thank you Randy!). A clueless therapy columnist at the leading daily newspaper The Irish Independent seems to get this, but is otherwise mostly at sea. The article begs for your informed comments. Go for it, and please represent us well.Open marriages are on the rise here tooSo, less than 15 years after

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-86048524822608517082011-12-13T07:01:00.006-05:002011-12-14T11:33:46.301-05:00

SalonConventional wisdom in the poly world is that a couple who try to transition from cheating and betrayal to honest polyamory usually fail... at least with each other. Poly depends crucially on communication, respect, and trust. After cheating, trust is majorly broken.At Salon, advice columnist Cary Tennis (sketch at right) has snarked at the idea of poly in past years but in response to a new

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-82025218200036015422011-12-12T13:06:00.010-05:002011-12-21T23:10:23.058-05:00

After two weeks of analyzing the British Columbia Supreme Court's ruling to support Canada's anti-polygamy law, attorney John Ince — who represented the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association in the case (and is poly himself) — has issued an open letter calling the ruling a nearly total, flat-out win for polyamorists. Although the ruling was hard on polygamists, Ince says it probably lifts the

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-49838652250417096822011-12-10T07:41:00.012-05:002011-12-13T06:59:54.023-05:00

The AustralianAustralians woke up this morning to a major conservative newspaper profiling polyactive folks — in the context of Australia's gay-marriage politics — and go to bed tonight with a one-hour documentary about polyfamilies airing on cable. Neither presentation might be quite what we want, but still.Three in marriage bed more of a good thingBy Ean HigginsPhoto: Victor de Bruijn with

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-6185601751650039712011-12-08T18:38:00.009-05:002011-12-10T09:48:04.400-05:00

Jaiya, Jon and Ian are on quite a roll putting themselves out there media-wise. Today the ABC-TV News site uses them as the basis for a story on the rise of polyamory in general. This afternoon it was one of the four top-featured items on the ABC News homepage, along with the Virginia Tech shooting. Loving More and Robyn Trask also get some good words in.By SUSAN DONALDSON JAMESDec. 8, 2011Jaiya

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-49011240749579043172011-12-06T12:24:00.008-05:002012-01-03T21:38:55.803-05:00

Daily Mail (U.K.)Jaiya Ma and her triad partners Jon Hanauer and Ian Fergusen in California are continuing their intention to "put out our views, knowledge and lessons we have learned over the years," both in major media and through their websites www.howtoloveopenly.com and www.redhottouch.com.Having recently appeared in Details magazine and on Anderson Cooper's TV talk show, they've now debuted

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-12161658775120775702011-12-04T07:08:00.003-05:002011-12-04T07:08:00.694-05:00

Among alternative newspapers, the East Bay Express in Oakland, California, was a renowned oldie even back when I was mixed up with the Association of Alternative Newsweeklies (as it was then called) a generation ago.This week's issue offers the eye-catching cover at right, leading off a 3,800-word article on the state of polyamory in an area where it has been known and practiced long enough that

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-18668608217298683592011-12-01T07:12:00.009-05:002012-01-24T07:29:10.103-05:00

Time Out New YorkIn the thick of the most important event of this year, polyamory emerges naturally for a certain fraction of the participants.Relationship styles at Occupy Wall StreetMonogamy, polyamory and preoccupations with the future of modern love.By Rachel R. White...According to 2010 Pew research, 50 percent of young people think that marriage is becoming obsolete. As the Occupy Wall

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-23614761666740765472011-11-30T07:02:00.003-05:002011-12-01T07:22:53.069-05:00

BioEdgeA newsletter of "bioethics news from around the world" summarizes a paper that appeared in a Swedish academic journal about whether, if two parents are better than one, three parents might be better than two.Swedish academic argues for triparentingBy Jared YeeOne parent is good. Two parents are better. Three parents might be better still. So argues a researcher from Sweden, who published a

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-89542254968051459252011-11-26T22:23:00.019-05:002011-12-21T23:17:20.265-05:00

Reactions are spreading to Wednesday's court ruling in Canada, in which British Columbia Chief Justice Robert Bauman upheld Canada's anti-polygamy law while narrowing its scope. As part of his ruling, he drew a new distinction that puts "common law" polyamorous households and intimate groups outside the law's reach — unless they perform a marriage-type ceremony or "sanctioning event" seeking

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-950642280957850152011-11-23T13:01:00.037-05:002011-12-21T23:20:24.429-05:00

British Columbia Chief Justice Robert Bauman has just upheld Canada's anti-polygamy law — while narrowing its scope and letting polyamorous families off the hook if they do not commit an overt act of multiple marriage.From his ruling:I have concluded that this case is essentially about harm; more specifically, Parliament’s reasoned apprehension of harm arising out of the practice of polygamy.

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-42962609173050082302011-11-22T16:39:00.010-05:002011-11-23T08:01:35.646-05:00

At 1 p.m. EST tomorrow (Wednesday Nov. 23), the Supreme Court of British Columbia will announce its ruling on the constitutionality of Canada's broad anti-polygamy and anti-polyamory law.We'll post news here ASAP, along with the official response from the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA) — whose activists and Chief Counsel plan to be in the thick of the media scrum at the Vancouver

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-24460127886249525652011-11-21T21:30:00.000-05:002011-11-23T09:33:21.270-05:00

...in the style of Gary Larsen:Source and credits.(Okay, okay: turducken.)Some more Thanksgiving fun: a coordinator of the Madison Area Polyamory Society in Wisconsin writes,Since our next discussion group will be happening a couple of days before Thanksgiving, I thought it might be fun to talk about gratitude and fun things. In that spirit, we'll be looking at a fun post by Joreth, of The Inn

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-61606554621923595462011-11-20T07:35:00.002-05:002011-12-04T20:24:44.622-05:00

Dear Wendy is a Millennial-generation advice column that runs online, sometimes gets reprinted at "The Frisky," and according to its website has received notice in bigtime media such as CNN and the Today Show. Yesterday Wendy posted an enthusiastic guest column by Coleen Monroe, 24. Bits of it:Six Reasons to Try PolyamoryPolyamory, the practice of having a relationship with more than one person,

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-61634526419130027922011-11-16T07:27:00.012-05:002011-11-20T09:00:11.589-05:00

Open marriage seems to be getting more attention now than at any time since the first wave after Nena and George O'Neill introduced the term in 1972. The celebrity press is full of horror stories. The thinking press is having discussions about "the new monogamy" (i.e. primary-secondary non-monogamy) and what "monogamish" gay couples can teach the straight world. And pop media are describing how

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-71391969723679911962011-11-15T13:02:00.002-05:002011-11-16T14:52:41.321-05:00

Institute for American Values; Huffington PostElizabeth Marquardt directs the Center for Marriage and Families at the conservative Institute for American Values, and she edits the institute's FamilyScholars.org. With a Canadian court about to rule next week on Canada's anti-polygamy and anti-polyamory law, Marquardt has posted an article at the Huffington Post blogs. It's more descriptive than

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-24817697681595002632011-11-10T07:01:00.013-05:002011-11-19T12:02:42.528-05:00

The Supreme Court of British Columbia will issue its long-awaited ruling on the legality of Canada's 120-year-old anti-polygamy and anti-polyamory law on November 23rd at 1 p.m. EST.The 1890s law, originally written to target the Mormon settlers of the time and unenforced for generations, provides five years in prison for more than two people in a marriage-like relationship, vaguely defined.1 The

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-66825676981360843212011-11-06T22:13:00.002-05:002011-11-12T15:11:40.509-05:00

Gay Express (New Zealand)Long-term gay partners agree on some form of non-monogamy more often than straight couples do, though gay spokespeople sometimes act embarrassed by this fact and try to sweep it under the rug.Gay-marriage advocates in particular often mirror the straight trope that young people will sow their wild oats and then want to settle down into monogamy. But as with straights,

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-79949964773224600872011-11-03T22:35:00.006-04:002011-12-10T18:41:31.909-05:00

A few days ago, fresh off their appearance in the November Details magazine, the vee triad of Jaiya Ma, Jon Hanauer and Ian Ferguson were bubbling about being interviewed in New York by CNN's Anderson Cooper. Cooper does a nightly news show ("Anderson Cooper 360°") and a daytime talk show ("Anderson"). He's one of the most-watched news/talk personalities on television.Today (November 3) Jaiya,

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-86864786868324229032011-10-29T20:20:00.010-04:002011-12-10T18:41:31.911-05:00

Details is a macho men's style-and-fashion mag (circulation 460,000) with major gay overtones, though they might never admit it. The November issue features a six-page article profiling several MFM poly families. The approach that the editor seemed to be going for was, Who are these men who will team up with a co-husband to be with a chosen lady?I asked several people profiled in the article what

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-50705587328659461842011-10-24T23:11:00.009-04:002011-12-07T20:27:52.663-05:00

Up to 1,400 newspapers"Dear Abby" is the most widely syndicated newspaper column in the world. Two months ago Abby (real name Jeanne Phillips; at right) printed a long letter from a woman in an MFM triad who described their family arrangement and asked advice on whether they should come out to the conservative parents of one of them. Abby said she “doesn’t readily accept this life” but gave them

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SBS-TV (Australia)Nikó Truffelish, correspondent from the land of Oz (Australia), writes that she and friends appeared on TV for two minutes explaining poly to the Australian nation. "We were all hoping for a longer, more in-depth edit out of our shoot," she writes, "but we're grateful for the opportunity to put our alternative views in :)"Watch here; their bit begins 2 minutes in. It was on the

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-46185885902506742332011-10-17T18:38:00.013-04:002011-10-23T12:20:19.298-04:00

The AtlanticThe Atlantic is one of America's old-line big-think magazines, up there with Harper's and The New Yorker. It's currently tackling the weighty subject of America's fast-changing relationship culture, in articles online and as the cover story of its November issue. First, on The Atlantic's website is a long interview with author Pamela Haag. Excerpts:Contrary to its "sanctity,"

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-9884944962180456242011-10-14T20:51:00.011-04:002011-10-29T09:53:01.190-04:00

The FriskyPeople sharing stories like this one are gradually changing the world. The popular online magazine The Frisky ("Love. Life. Stars. Style.") just published this:First Time For Everything: Dating A CoupleBy Chloe MonroeI met Greg through a dating website and we talked online and then on the phone for about a week. I was very hesitant because I had never tried online dating before, and

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-67168365950616738912011-10-05T20:39:00.007-04:002011-11-12T15:03:02.761-05:00

LibérationAfter a late start behind the U.S., Canada, the U.K., Australia/NZ and Germany, France continues its catch-up rush of media attention to polyamory. Our Paris correspondent, polyactivist Guilain Omont, has just been profiled on the back page of the venerable lefty paper Libération (co-founded by Jean-Paul Sartre), which claims a daily circulation of 170,000:A lover who doesn't lieProfile

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-48140095402281375222011-09-29T20:05:00.004-04:002011-10-09T21:14:13.202-04:00

I'm disturbed by a troubling trend. As the word "polyamory" spreads into the mainstream, its usage is deflating there to become, sometimes, just another term for old-fashioned screwing around.Not to be sex-negative or anything, but we've got plenty of terms for that already. We risk losing our defining word, one that refers to something different: the radical subset of non-monogamy that's open to

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com24tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-43927463172416772562011-09-20T07:53:00.012-04:002011-09-28T20:59:06.521-04:00

The polyamory-awareness movement, such as it is (in the U.S. this means mainly Loving More, the Polyamory Leadership Network [PLN], and a whole raft of independent people and groups) has in the last few years settled pretty firmly on a name for its core purpose: "Relationship Choice."This is shorthand for telling the world that you can create your own relationship structures, based on how well

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-81502554433532632942011-09-13T13:39:00.024-04:002011-10-09T21:09:40.090-04:00

A student speaks out for polyamory on the website of the online and print magazine Teen Ink ("reaching millions of teens nationwide"):Polygamy, Polyamory, and SocietyBy Anonymous, Nova Scotia, CanadaIn my opinion, I have too many friends that are pointlessly heartbroken....Most people involved in polyamorous lifestyles don't believe in the same standards of commitment that are idealized by

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-79665182047883859272011-09-07T23:37:00.026-04:002012-01-19T19:44:47.830-05:00

Remember South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford? In 2009 he vanished for nearly a week "hiking the Appalachian Trail", then reappeared from a tryst in Argentina and captivated the nation by crying on camera about having "met my soul mate," while his wife stewed.Sanford was blindsided by genuinely falling in love, while living in a closed Christian concept-box that left him no basis to understand

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ZDF (German TV) At ages 68 and 67, Erika Hohndorf and Justus Rumpf are the oldest polyfolks I've seen going on television to explain and analyze their multi-loving way of life. They're German; you may recognize them from their heartwarming appearance in a German public TV documentary three weeks ago. Last night they ventured into a different setting: one of Germany's best-known TV talk shows (

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Psychology Today blogsNew York therapist Anne Rettenberg writes a blog titled "Beyond Don Juan" about "relationship and dating issues, targeted to men." In her article below, she generalizes from her sad clients — dysfunctional women and doggy men, apparently — to everybody else.This is common among statistically illiterate therapists who can't grasp the concept of sampling bias. Why "Open"

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ITV (U.K.) As if their big newspaper article plugging Polyday tomorrow (August 27th) wasn't enough, Polyday folks in London got themselves onto British TV yesterday, on ITV's "This Morning" show. The promo: We meet three women who have all made the decision to share the same man... Maxine, Eunice and Mimi each have more than one partner... and their partners have other partners... and all 3

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-53860639388229096442011-08-22T10:11:00.020-04:002012-01-03T21:38:55.812-05:00

Metro (U.K.) This Saturday (August 27th) is Polyday in London — a one-day annual gathering at a hip community center featuring talks, discussions, workshops, speed dating and, come evening, drinking. Past Polydays have had turnouts of up to 200 or so. This one looks like it may be biggest yet. Because this morning, the Polyday folks scored a coup. They got a great article about themselves —

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There's new stuff out since my last roundup of poly media coverage in France, including a feature article in France's largest weekly newsmagazine. These items come from organizer Guilain Omont in Paris (a member of the Polyamory Leadership Network) and his resource-filled site, Amours Pluriels (amours.pl). From Le Nouvel Observateur, the weekly newsmagazine: Polyamorous and proud to be so By

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Up to 1,400 newspapers When poly triads and quads first began seeing their inquiries taken seriously by newspaper advice columnists, it was truly a big deal. Here we were being recognized in public as actually existing; millions of people were reading, with their eggs and toast, that poly relationships are actually possible and happening in the real world. Now that this kind of attention is

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-78441454740966877122011-08-08T07:16:00.016-04:002011-08-12T22:23:50.985-04:00

Viktor Leberecht, a poly activist in Berlin, sends word of a remarkable half-hour show about two polyfamilies that just aired on the German public TV channel ZDF. "I Love Not Just One: Happy with multiple partners" was shown August 2nd as part of the documentary series 37 Grad ("37°"). It follows two groups of people in depth: a sweet, homey bunch in their 60s or so (pictured above), and a group

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-22538521821109063012011-08-05T07:07:00.024-04:002011-11-12T15:11:40.511-05:00

The Advocate The Advocate has been a leading publication in the GLBT movement since the 1960s. Its August 2011 issue offers a gay take on the "monogamish" or "New Monogamy" trend that's growing (or at least being more discussed) among straight couples. The terms refer to allowing secondary relationships, often with the goal of keeping a marriage thriving.[1]. These build-it-yourself

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-49160611586681320362011-07-30T07:34:00.013-04:002011-09-06T07:28:13.097-04:00

Several remarkably good how-I-came-to-poly stories have been published in the last few days, while I was digging out from under the work that piled up when I was away at the Network for a New Culture's Summer Camp East. Kick back for a good read.1. Matt Bullen in Seattle was the co-writer with his girlfriend Terisa Greenan (at far right) for her poly web-TV series "Family" (2009–10). Matt and

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-19017356841411279462011-07-23T19:58:00.032-04:002011-10-18T13:50:05.629-04:00

You may remember Kody, Meri, Janelle, and Christine Brown and Robyn Sullivan — they're the showpiece family of Mormon polygamists on TLC's reality TV show "Sister Wives". Since the family went public with the show in September 2010, they have faced a threat of prosecution under Utah's anti-polygamy law and as a result, one wife lost her job. They moved to Nevada to avoid being charged.Now the

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-48771822536088078752011-07-22T19:02:00.004-04:002012-01-03T21:37:18.788-05:00

The Guardian (UK)The Guardian is one of Britain's (and the world's) leading daily newspapers, known for its liberal voice and best known lately for breaking the Rupert Murdoch "hackgate" story.Every Friday in a back section it prints a reader's love-and-life question, with the best answers that other readers have provided for it online. Below is the question it published today, July 22nd (paper

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-61697898203951660512011-07-21T00:26:00.003-04:002011-08-06T09:40:09.572-04:00

BlogHerYou may recognize Kendra Holliday, also known as The Beautiful Kind, as the kink/poly/fetish writer in St. Louis who lost her job at a nonprofit and faces a custody challenge from her ex because she accidentally outed herself in a Twitter slipup.Having been outed will'er-nill'er, she picked up the ball and ran with it. On her substantial, sex-positive website The Beautiful Kind, she now

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-75259766907811862022011-07-20T08:02:00.005-04:002011-07-21T10:13:26.853-04:00

Near the top of the news this morning is President Obama's announcement endorsing the repeal of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which prohibits the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages performed by the states. Today the Senate Judiciary Committee holds a hearing on the Respect for Marriage Act, a measure to repeal DOMA. The committee is chaired by Sen. Patrick Leahy (

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Psychology Today blogsDeborah Anapol, one of our movement's earliest spokespeople, posts another retrospective article and describes some of where she's at now.Beyond PolyamoryWhere is the line between optimism and denial?When I first began consciously thinking about non-monogamy in the early 80's, I thought of my direction as going beyond the limitations of monogamy. I was not alone. An earlier

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-65523342416911108212011-07-18T07:27:00.011-04:002011-07-26T12:21:04.663-04:00

SalonSorry I haven't posted in a while! I've been away for ten days at the Network for New Culture's Summer Camp East in the mountains of West Virginia, while the mail piled up and up.And just like last year, I come back amazed and bedazzled by the New Culture techniques, values, and processes with which the 80 of us played and experimented, to find poly-related stuff piling up that ties right

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-26347939394837792832011-07-01T09:35:00.008-04:002011-08-15T20:21:50.257-04:00

New York Times Sunday Magazine My last post was about an article in one of New York City's alt weekly papers on how queer and poly partnerships can set a good example for straight marriage. Tomorrow morning, a much bigger fish will land on vast numbers of serious doorsteps: the Sunday New York Times, with its magazine section featuring a 5,400-word cover story on the same topic, but explored in

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-77935673114633623012011-06-25T07:21:00.006-04:002011-06-28T08:03:07.728-04:00

New York PressJust as New York becomes the newest state to legalize gay marriage, the weekly New York Press looks at the benefits that an alt culture of gay and poly partnerships can bring to conventional marriage — an institution that has been on shaky ground for decades, and that needs to evolve to serve even the most normal people better if it's to regain its footing.Domestic Bliss?From

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-14003154908225082052011-06-23T07:36:00.007-04:002011-06-28T10:50:26.607-04:00

Dear PrudenceCarolyn HaxAnnie's MailboxMainstream advice columnists, the kind your parents have read in the newspaper since forever, are getting their heads around polyamory and responding well in print."Dear Prudence" is based online at Slate.com and is syndicated to some 200 newspapers. Two years ago Prudence (Emily Yoffe) scoffed at the idea of a poly triad, especially around kids. But so many

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-31624739034200386202011-06-16T07:14:00.004-04:002011-06-16T12:28:30.246-04:00

The Guardian (UK) and elsewhereClarisse Thorn ("There she is: a Chicago-based, feminist, pro-BDSM sex-positive activist"; logo at right) must have loads of readers at Feministe, judging by the flood of traffic I've gotten from there since she linked to one of my posts. The link was in her recent article In Praise of Monogamy, written from a poly perspective. She also posted the article on

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-15991464605622353472011-06-14T21:46:00.007-04:002011-07-06T13:27:22.919-04:00

The Talk (CBS)On the CBS afternoon show "The Talk," actress/ comedian/ LGBT advocate Margaret Cho comes out poly but calls it an open marriage. (Asks Billy: "Is 'open' the PC way to say you are poly?)Here 'tis. (3:25) (June 13, 2011).This is rather a change from some years ago, when Cho called her marriage "very conventional and conservative, I think. I mean we're such weird people that people

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-52641817269943322742011-06-09T07:32:00.013-04:002011-11-12T15:11:40.513-05:00

President Obama has declared June as LGBT Pride Month. At Pride parades and festivals around North America, poly groups are joining in. If you're in Boston this Saturday June 11th, come by the Boston Pride Festival at City Hall Plaza (where the parade ends) and visit our "Polyamory!" booth. I'll be there. We've always had a hugely positive reception.Meanwhile....The Bilerico Project claims to be

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-91727736307372051472011-06-06T23:58:00.013-04:002011-10-03T13:32:52.607-04:00

CNN, USA Today, Washington Post, many othersMore and more people are saying that traditional marriage is a poor fit to today's realities and has dwindling relevance to modern life. Piles of statistics back this up — from the trend toward ever later first marriages, to the fact that 40% of American children are now born out of wedlock, to the continuing 40%–50% divorce rate, to the shockingly low

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-35953901311536348352011-06-01T22:19:00.008-04:002011-06-07T10:53:46.408-04:00

City Weekly (Salt Lake City, UT)Salt Lake City is the capital of the Mormon Church (LDS), so it's no surprise that members of the Utah Polyamory Society say they're always having to explain that no, they're not about patriarchal religious polygamy. They even have to explain this at their annual Pride Day booth.This week's City Weekly, Salt Lake City's alternative newspaper, presents a long cover

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-73678755468846754322011-05-30T07:43:00.003-04:002011-05-30T09:23:52.218-04:00

Saturday Night LiveA while back, after PopEater magazine declared that 2009 had been the year of the threesome, I posted about how three-way sex was becoming a fancy trend — at least for allusions in music, edgy ads, and haut-pop culture. Much as I've adored multi-lovemaking with very close intimates (it changed my life when I was young), I wasn't thrilled with the tone of the pop-culture stuff

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-15427673284229871922011-05-27T07:41:00.007-04:002011-08-11T11:43:05.511-04:00

It ain't a movement if it ain't got good slogans. A while back I posted about poly T-shirts, buttons, and other personal-media displays. Some are cool, some are cool but obscure, some are cool but too long, and some are just off-target or confusing. Diana Adams, poly-activist lawyer and community organizer, has put out a call for a better T-shirt slogan (requires Facebook login, and scroll down

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WZZM TV-13 (Grand Rapids, MI)People watching the local news in western Michigan a few minutes ago saw this wonderful, five-minute report profiling a committed quad and an outspoken triad. The report dwelt on expanding views of marriage. It couldn't have been more respectful. And the station serves a mostly Republican region.From the transcript:The United States legally defines marriage as "one

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-44219331125015862332011-05-21T16:45:00.010-04:002011-05-25T21:21:12.696-04:00

Off-topic maybe, but it's two weeks till Polyamory House Party Weekend June 3–5. This is a (so far) North-America-wide, do-it-yourself event created by folks at Modern Poly and Loving More to have fun, to "bring together polyamorous people and communities, to celebrate polyamory, and to support the movement for the acceptance of relationship choice."It is poly-fi triads, kids of four-parent

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-66509486205096427062011-05-20T07:40:00.004-04:002011-05-20T11:08:33.264-04:00

The Stranger (Seattle)Mistress Matisse, alt-newspaper columnist on kink and poly relationships, addresses a topic at the heart of the human condition. And the topic of many a poly discussion group.Coping When Your Partner's Other Partner Isn't So GreatWill Rogers famously remarked that he never met a man he didn't like. However, I'm pretty sure Will Rogers wasn't polyamorous. So what happens when

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-9984234135077764712011-05-15T21:56:00.007-04:002011-12-15T16:10:09.610-05:00

Six new books on polyamory have come out in the last year and a half (as far as I know). I've reviewed two of them so far:● Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners by Deborah Anapol, and● What Does Polyamory Look Like? Polydiverse Patterns of Loving and Living in Modern Polyamorous Relationships by Mim Chapman. The others are:● Love Unlimited: The Joys and

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-89720616180304830242011-05-07T22:02:00.001-04:002011-05-26T13:41:29.693-04:00

SexIs ("what you want it to be")The new online and print magazine SexIs ("taking sex positivity to a whole new level") is getting a lot of notice, judging from my Google Alerts. It's published by EdenFantasys, "the sex shop you can trust," a woman-oriented distributor of adult toys that also provides "education about topics of healthy sexual activity. We believe that the safe, consensual

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-60319905245020622592011-05-02T23:11:00.008-04:002011-05-16T08:16:17.676-04:00

Distributed to more than 200 newspapersAnother mainstream advice columnist fields another poly etiquette inquiry. This is what your relatives may be reading today in the hometown paper.Addressing invitations when there's more than one partnerMiss Manners by Judith MartinUnited Feature Syndicate, Inc.I have several friends who are in open or polyamorous relationships. Because I'm happy for their

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-90349912784319716292011-04-30T22:07:00.003-04:002011-05-01T12:33:02.699-04:00

Philippine Online ChroniclesIf you wonder what today's Catholic Church would do if it were larger and stronger, look at the Philippines, where it is. Divorce is outlawed; many Filipino couples live outside the law in second partnerships without legal, financial, or property protection. The Church has partly succeeded in stamping out birth control, especially by the one-third of the Filipino

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-36678760919598925442011-04-28T22:02:00.003-04:002011-04-29T14:02:26.322-04:00

Whitman Pioneer (WA)Sacramento State Hornet (CA)Portland State Vanguard (OR)Smith Sophian (MA)Time for another roundup of polyamory discussions in college newspapers.● In today's Whitman Pioneer at Whitman College in the state of Washington:Partnered Monogamy: Is there an alternative?By A. Cuard...The form that these relationships take can vary greatly. Some people may form a fairly traditional

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-60456396000726685562011-04-23T19:54:00.007-04:002011-05-26T13:49:03.145-04:00

AutostraddleIf you haven't studied Franklin Veaux's Venn diagram of nonmonogamy even now that it's gone viral, you just have no geek cred at all. It may have inspired the flowchart of lesbian relationships that's gone up on Autostraddle ("news, entertainment and girl-on-girl culture"). Autostraddle is an online lesbian magazine that specializes in the brash, radical and sexy. A quality flowchart

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-20299901627522203642011-04-21T06:52:00.004-04:002011-04-29T10:57:07.505-04:00

Abiola TV / LSD: Love, Sex and DatingSassy, black, and sex-positive, Abiola Abrams ("The Lifestyle Passionista") appears on broadcast TV — "You've seen me interviewing people on BET, NBC & HBO, as a reality chick on VH1, & on MTV Teen Dating Empowerment Coach" — and she runs her own popular web TV show. An episode she recently aired was "Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Marriage: A Gorgeous Wife, Her

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-57751003612757580652011-04-14T07:49:00.008-04:002011-04-15T09:41:01.901-04:00

Yesterday attorney John Ince for the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association (CPAA) presented his closing arguments in the case testing the legality of Canada's broad anti-polygamy law1. No matter how the judge rules in the coming weeks, the CPAA's intervention in the case has greatly raised public awareness across Canada of the reality of poly relationships and families, and of polyamory's

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Psychology Today blogsAt a recent poly conference I attended, the organizers set aside time and space for anyone who wanted to do a presentation or announce a discussion topic. A longtime poly couple took the opportunity to discuss a terribly difficult and traumatic problem.The man, who sincerely loves and respects the woman, had recently confessed to her that despite their poly vows of openness

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Electronic Journal of Human SexualityLongtime polyactivist Barry Smiler has placed an article in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality (published by the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), arguing that the way forward for polyamory acceptance is to understand it as part of a broader principle. What he's talking about is the principle of individual self-determination — the

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Psychology Today blogsOn her blog at the Psychology Today magazine website, Deborah Anapol posts a noteworthy section from her book Polyamory in the 21st Century:Polyamory and ChildrenIs polyamory harmful to children?...As extended families who live together become increasingly rare, especially in the affluent West, polyamorous families are one way that some people are counteracting the isolation

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So I just got back from Atlanta Poly Weekend, the first-ever polyamory conference held in the Deep South (if you don't count Florida). APW turns out to be a seriously up-and-coming new source of polyactive energy. Here's my report.The weekend was bravely organized from scratch by Billy Holder, his wife Pocket, and their triad partner Jeremy (PB&J they call themselves), along with other friends

Alanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008171792811719945noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30436440.post-67805922017012984102011-03-31T08:09:00.005-04:002011-03-31T12:37:30.477-04:00

Okay, I declare that a float in a parade counts as media. This one sounds and looks like it was a Big Deal. From Australia, Nikó Truffelish writes:Poly float in the Sydney Mardi Gras 2011The Australian polyamorous community entered the Sydney Mardi Gras parade for the first time under its own banner!It was a complete community effort (replete with kinky fundraising) and we have made a splash!...

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Poly philosophizing returns to Dinosaur Comics today. The thing with Dinosaur Comics, if you're not aware, is that the exact same artwork appears every day. Only the dialog changes. Author Ryan North has kept this up for 1,930 issues now.And oh yeh, here's my long-running roundup of other poly comics (warning, contains a few dead links). Know of more strips? Leave suggestions and links in the

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Vancouver SunClosing arguments began yesterday in the test case to determine the validity of Canada's broad anti-polygamy law. The law, reportedly unenforced for some 60 years, is so all-encompassing that it provides up to five years in prison for anyone in a committed polyamorous relationship — even if no one is married, and even if no one has sex. The attorney for the Canadian Polyamory

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Biloxi-Gulfport (Mississippi) Sun-HeraldNew words spread more easily than new ideas. Polyamory is getting noticed far from its centers of activity, but not always with great insight.Just the three (or four) of usBy Pamela E. Spencer and Damon Smith — McClatchy NewspapersWe can't escape Charlie Sheen lately, which got us wondering. Sheen's got two ladies living with him.New "Dancing With the Stars

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Madame NoireAn online black women's magazine ("the latest in fashion trends, black entertainment news, parenting tips and beauty secrets") asks, "Are Some People Really “Polyamorous” or Just Plain Greedy?"The article uses the reality show "Sister Wives," which just began its second season (see my post about its poly-relevance), as the jumping-off point:By Toya ShareeIf you’ve ever tuned in to the

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The March/April issue of the Washington Monthly, a well respected political journal, devotes a major feature article to the phenomenon that is Dan Savage and his impact on American culture. The article says the brash alternative-newspaper editor "can lay a legitimate claim to being America’s most influential advice columnist." Moreover, it says that he articulates what are clearly becoming the

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