The "Symbol Over Substance mistake"

The Stranger (Seattle)

More thoughtful advice from Seattle alt-advice columnist Mistress Matisse:

There are rules in polyamory that are like training wheels. They're helpful when you're starting out, but once you have the hang of multiple love relationships, they create problems rather than solve them. Consider what I call the Symbol Over Substance mistake....

Read the whole article (Dec. 26, 2007).