"6 Common Misconceptions About Polyamory"

The Buddhist Elephant Journal posts another nice article looking at poly. People there are paying attention.

6 Common Misconceptions About Polyamory

By Renee Picard

I used to be one of those people who couldn’t comprehend how it would be possible to be in a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve always held pretty liberal views on relationships, but I remember making certain assumptions (internally) about what an open relationship might be like.

In the past year or so I have learned a lot about it by spending time in the community....

Despite the fact that it is becoming more mainstream and acceptable, mainstream media likes to dramatize certain elements and downplay others, potentially giving the rest of the world false impressions of what polyamory is.

So, to clear some things up, polyamory (non-monogamy) is not:

About orgies....

The same as polygamy....

A way to ‘prevent’ divorce or breakups....

About eliminating jealousy.... The difference is in the way it’s dealt with.... There is a focus on knowing the difference between attachment and love.

About avoiding commitment....

About having less intimacy or less love.... Put simply: when one spends time within a community where there is extra incentive to be open, loving, accepting and compassionate—well, this can be contagious!

Polyamory is more about:

Freedom of choice....

Flexibility....

Learning to love (yourself)....

Presence and authenticity....

Here's the article (Jan. 28, 2014).

A search of Elephant turns up these these others.

Here are all my posts tagged "Buddhist" (including this one; scroll down).

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