"Things Polyamorous People Should Know"
Mistress Matisse, kink columnist for the Seattle alternative weekly paper The Stranger, presents another in her series of occasional poly columns:
Having three people in a happy, perfectly balanced sexual relationship is often regarded as the Holy Grail of polyamory. But in Arthurian legend, Galahad, the guy who actually reached the Grail, was a virgin who led a sinless life. Let that serve as an example of the difficulty and sacrifices usually required to make one's triad dreams come true....
If you can keep only one agreement with your poly partner, let it be this one: When you say, "It's fine," really mean that it's fine. Nothing sucks more than not knowing if you can take your partner at their word....
Even if you and your partner say you don't have veto power over each other's other lovers, you actually do. You can veto with your feet, by leaving the relationship.
Read the whole article (issue of Oct. 12 18, 2006).