A happy poly quint on MSNBC.com
More than 2,000 comments are burning up the board at MSNBC.com after it reprinted, on the Today Show site, a polyamory article from YourTango.com (the successor to the late Tango magazine). Although the title calls it "polygamy," the article is about a FMFMF polyamorous quint. They're living together, raising kids, and sound quite happy.
I have two husbands: A polygamist’s diary
By Kathleen Lewis
...I was first introduced to such alternative relationships in college when a female friend of mine and I knowingly decided to share the same boyfriend.
No, not a threesome, just going out with the same guy. It was partially a matter of convenience, and partially the fact that we were close friends.... As this was my first intimate relationship and it became polyamorous, it is hardly surprising that I ended up in a polygamist marriage....
[Alan and I] fell together like a couple of old shoes, somehow instantly comfortable with each other. We had similar opinions about plural relationships, and neither of us was averse to the idea. Around a year and a half after we were married, we met Eric. He and I were instantly attracted to each other and, as Alan had no objection, we began getting to know each other better. Over time, I found myself falling in love with Eric. Alan certainly wasn't blind to this, so we all got together to discuss it. This turned out to be one of the most important conversations of my life, and led to an increase in my family’s size.
...To avoid legal troubles, I remained legally married to Alan, and we all decided a larger house was in order when we met Leslie.
...Fast forward to today, and our family is now composed of Alan, Eric, Leslie, Amber, and myself, plus our children: Todd, Steve, Jennifer, Lisa, and Amber is currently pregnant.... We have two family meetings a week, one of which is for adults only, both of which can get lively and loud. We've had our arguments over money, people monopolizing other people's time, dealing with children's issues, and so forth — like any other family — but we just have more voices in the discussion.
As far as finances are concerned, Alan, Eric and Leslie all work, and Amber intends to go back to work after the baby is born. I kind of became the head Mom and housekeeper, and we all take turns at cooking except for Eric. (We all try to keep him out of the kitchen. We've decided we like the house, and we don't want him to burn it down.) We have main household accounts for bills and home improvements, and we all have our own personal accounts as well. Alan keeps all the books balanced, as he's best at it. Amber and I both receive a kind of salary for what we do around the house....
This lifestyle really isn't for everybody. We are all here because we love each other and we choose to be together.... Incidentally, for those who insist on knowing, we are all straight. This did not keep me from sleeping in Leslie's bed for a few nights and holding her as we cried after she had a miscarriage. We all love and support each other, and try to see that everyone's needs are met....
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This one's certainly getting lots of attention. And no, the Alan in the story isn't me.