Polyamory in the News
. . . by Alan M.

October 10, 2013

Followup: What's happened with the Showtime Polyamory family in Hollywood

Chris and Megan

Season 2 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married & Dating ended on a cliffhanger for the Hollywood family of three. They had broken up, were wrestling with how or whether to get back together and on what terms, and they were finally beginning to talk about hard disagreements and individual needs that had long gone unsaid. And then the credits rolled. That final episode was shot months ago. So what happened?!

I asked, and Chris responded with this letter:

Hi Alan,

Let me tell you first off that we read all of this season's recaps as you posted them. We all felt that you had very good insights and did a great job recapping the events for those who were unable to watch the show.

We also agree with you that the show ended rather inconclusively and we were a little disappointed by that. That said, the issues that our trio was coping with were far too many and too complicated to have been dealt with in eight half-hour segments, let alone that only half of that time could be spent on our family. Under those conditions [director] Natalia did an excellent job telling our story and did her best to wrap up the show without forcing a resolution that did not yet exist.

When the season left off, Megan and I were still living together in the house that Leigh Ann and I had made our home since even before our marriage. I was spending some nights there and others with Leigh Ann, in the house that she had moved into. Very quickly, this became an issue for all three of us.

The only resolution we could find was for Megan and I each to find our own separate apartments. Currently we continue to each have our own residences and have made a point to carve out time for ourselves as individuals as well as beginning to acknowledge and make time for the four separate relationships that are contained within our trio. It has been a difficult time, plenty of arguments, hurt feelings and "processing," but we are beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel.

This past week we had considerably more "trio time" than we have had this entire year. Leigh Ann hosted a work event this past Saturday night that Megan and I helped out with and attended. This event gave us our first opportunity post-filming to really be out publicly together. The girls have now planned a two week road trip, where Leigh Ann will be attending several different pole dancing events and competitions. She will be judging some competitions, performing at several venues and teaching workshops at each place she stops. Megan will be bringing her merchandise and setting up "pop up shops" at each of Leigh Ann's events. They will, after hitting several different states, be meeting up with me in Des Moines, Iowa. I will be there with my most promising fighter, Alan Jouban for his RFA welterweight championship fight. This is a huge fight for him, me and my gym, LegendsMMA, and it can be viewed live on AxisTV (formerly HDnet) October 25. I am really excited that I will have both of the girls there supporting me and even more thrilled that the girls are re-experiencing their love for each other and taking this time, away from me, to rebuild their relationship.

Right now, I believe we are all still considering what type of lifestyle/relationship configurations will work for us longterm. And we are aware that we may not all come up with the same answers. We are, however, mostly past the pain and anger we were experiencing in the series and have allowed ourselves to remember how much we love each other. This combined with greater communication and scheduling has helped us grow considerably closer. Right now we are mostly focusing on our businesses and on living the fun, exciting and unique lives that we were living before all the drama and unhappiness that unfolded during the show.

We really appreciate your and all the fans' interest. Anyone who is interested in keeping up with our lives can do so through all of our social media:

Polyamory Married and Dating: Hollywood Family

@chrisreillymma and @legendsmma
@msomerville and @three_heartz
@leighannreilly and @bespunpoledance

@leighannreilly and @bespun
@malyssasomerville and @threeheartzaccesories
@chrisreillymma and @legendsmma

Here's my detailed recap of the final episode, with links to videos, etc.

Here are all my posts about Season 2.

Update Oct. 17: Leigh Ann posts her own comments on where they're currently at.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't like this family. The husband is forcing the 2 women to be together when you can tell theh don't want to be together. They are polygamous not poly. This followup smells more of self-promotion than it does love. If the show does another season I hope they don't bring this "family" back. I missed the Anthony, Lyndsey and Vanessa family. There was real love there, not forced love like this Hollywood family. Is there an update on the triad from Season 1?

October 12, 2013 1:49 PM  
Blogger Deion said...

I'm happy to hear that they are attempting to do the work that will be needed to bring their family back together if it is to be.
But I also hope they they are communicating their true feelings and that Megan and Leigh Ann are truly open to being together once again and not doing what they think they need to for Chris's sake.
And finally, I hope that if after all the work, they still cannot see a way to make it happen, that they are able to end it amicably and remember that life does go on. Love can be had again.

October 14, 2013 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't know why therapy isn't being utilized (at all, it seems) to help with the poly modeling and relationship issues. Particularly the Hollywood family seems to feel they have to work out everything by themselves. I know there aren't a lot of poly-friendly therapists, but surely there are some in California that could help?!

October 18, 2013 12:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm glad that they are getting a chance to get their family together and settle their issues as individuals. Seeing what the resolution is kind of changed some of the ideas I had about their commitment to each other; I was under the impression that they didn't really want to be together they just kind of fell into a relationship and didn't feel like going through the messiness of actually ending it. I hope we get a chance to see if it works out and if the women are able to repair their relationship. Things got very strained there in particular. I wish them luck and yes, I miss Lynsdey, Anthony and Vanessa but I understand that t would have seemed repetitive to have them along with the new triad because their relationship structure is at least superficially very similar. Seeing a poly family that is not as practiced in communication and ensuring everyone feels loved and taken care of was instructive, so I'm glad that family was added in.

October 18, 2013 4:52 PM  
Anonymous Tiffany said...

Leigh Ann appears to be very unhappy and it appears to during this only for Chris. I think Chris has a stronger connection with Megan because they spend so much time together since the work together leaving Leigh Ann left out. From my observation I think Megan needs to leave or Chris and Leigh Ann needs to get a divorce. Leigh Ann and Megan together is not going to work anymore :(

November 15, 2013 3:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is there a season 3???

June 28, 2014 12:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with Tiffany. I also see Megan as very manipulative. She has little respect for honoring or acknowledging the primary relationship between Chris and Leigh Ann which depicts her as a selfish individual with an Agenda. She is clearly an opportunist who has developed a pattern of capitalizes on Leigh Ann's work commitments outside of the home/schedule to initiate intimacy with Chris. It also seems she has -0- real commitments other than making sure she involves herself completely around Chris's availability and his world. Not once did the show show Megan taking a shake to Leigh Ann's work or her joining Leigh Ann in her activities, which a true trio would share in.

Sorry, but I don't care for the dynamics of this group. In my opinion, there is not a true bond with all three. And of the two ladies, I would prefer to see Chris grow with Leigh Ann who has been the more accepting, generous and giving to and for him. They have history and have built their life together which they generously offer to 'share' with Megan. Not 'give'. Sadly, perhaps due to her immaturity or even her true 'colors' - Megan now comes across as a young woman who is focused on 'getting' Chris with clear idea's on replacing Leigh Ann. Its very obvious she only concedes to sharing Chris when her attempts at manipulating Leigh Ann's demise is not met by Chris. She is transparent - I see no real trust from her in a three way love. Nor do I see true respect and love for Leigh Ann or interest in sharing Chris or accepting she is not the primary relationship. Don't think this is a truly poly group, but more of a 3-way that the primary relationship has outgrown. Chris and Leigh Ann should move on. Megan is not poly.

December 23, 2015 6:25 AM  
Blogger anonymous said...

I second each and every word written on the above post...especially when it comes to how selfish and manipulating Megan was.

February 20, 2016 4:01 AM  
Blogger Summer said...

I know Chris personality type and he meets the profile of an abuser. Very self involved, even he himself says he has problems with anger, manipulative, I can go on. If this relationship was polyamorous, he would have compromised with LeighAnn and allowed her to date as well. No, it's a man that wants two women under his control. I don't get it, he oozes of smug, he uses LeighAnn's success, and he is quite unattractive. He has tiny little beady eyes.

April 04, 2016 2:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

as a person watching this show for the first time I would like to see where the Trio is now, 2016. I happen to agree with everything Anonymous said on December 23rd. It seemed to me Megan was trying to replace Leigh Ann as the new wife and not second party in a marriage already seven years developed.

October 30, 2016 1:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Megan is the most conniving, manipulative and evil person I've ever seen on reality TV.

January 02, 2017 2:58 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Are they still together?

February 28, 2017 12:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anonymous: well said and perfectly put. Leigh Ann has given so much that it seems the only one she cheated on was herself. Chris needs to take the reins and work on his marriage with Leigh Ann and put that first and foremost. He needs to address Megan's attempt to foil this marriage and set the expectation that the marriage is primary. I get the fact that she wants to be an equal and eventually, have a family; but not at the demise of an existing marriage. They ALL need to be open and painfully honest with one another and determine if this relationship can trufully work out for all parties involved.

February 02, 2019 10:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this wasn't really a poly relationship. it was a couple with a living unicorn that long term became just a duo. As a poly person, I find the show super cringy but entertaining. I hope nobody takes it as the face value of what poly actually is. but anyways, I wish them all the best

December 19, 2020 3:49 PM  
Blogger Polycurious said...

I’m here in 2020 with an update. They kicked Leigh Ann to the curb. (They got a divorce) Megan did replace her. I knew that was her intention! Leigh Ann deserves so much better. Chris is gross. I found Leigh Ann on Instagram and am awaiting approval. I hope she’s doing well!

December 24, 2020 6:37 AM  
Blogger ThinAdjacent said...

I think Megan and Chris have a baby together now. Oof. That’s so messed up. It was Megan’s plan all along. Leigh Ann really got the short end of the stick and no one defended her in that relationship. It was all so upsetting to watch.

October 04, 2021 12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with this observation! So true! Sad but true

September 15, 2022 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Update from 2023, someone wrote nasty things on Megan’s Instagram so Chris replied saying how the trio tried to work things out for a year and a half after the filming. Megan left and Chris and Leigh Ann tried to work things out for two more years before calling it. Two more years after that Chris and Megan got back together with Leigh Ann’s blessing. I guess this is as good ending as we’re going to get for closure.

February 07, 2023 9:46 AM  

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