Polyamory in the News!
. . . by Alan M.

March 13, 2016

In a Latina magazine, "Polyamory: More people are willing to try new ways to form family and community"

Vivala is an online magazine/platform "for a new generation of bold and savvy Latinas to connect and have their voices heard" in English. A good Poly 101 article has popped up by a staff reporter. It's another sign that the concept is widely taking hold correctly.

Although the cartoon is off message, and the title is extreme.

Polyamory: Maybe Monogamy Really Is Dead

More and more people are willing to try new ways to form family and community.

By Lora Somoza, Vivala Reporter

Teresa* has been with her boyfriend, Brian, for three and a half years. They met at a music festival, immediately hit it off, and have been together ever since. She loves that he’s kind and strong and wants to make the world a better place. Teresa met Anna through Brian. She’s now one of her closest friends. Anna also happens to be Brian’s other girlfriend. And both Anna and Brian know about Matt, a guy Teresa dates occasionally when he’s in town.

...Teresa is one of the growing numbers of women who have found open relationships a better fit than dear old monogamy....

Let’s start with what it’s NOT. Polyamory is not about partner swapping at some strange swing club. It’s not about just hooking up or cheating. It’s not for people who just can’t “commit.” And it’s DEFINITELY not for those who aren’t interested in talking about their relationships; poly couples will tell you they sometimes “communicate to death.”

The word "polyamory," literally means loving more than one. It’s the ability to have loving, consensual relationships with two or more other people. And from there, each relationship creates its own rules. Some are like extended families, living together under one roof. Others may be couples that are both seeing other people. But the one thing they all have in common is that their relationships are based on communication, trust, and honesty. And more young women are finding this intriguing.

...Before you change you relationship status to “Poly” on OK Cupid, take the time to get real with yourself. Honesty, openness and communication are vital to any successful relationship. In a polyamorous relationship, you need these qualities on steroids. Take a good look at what you really want and what kind of person you are before you start searching for another partners. Are you the jealous type? Are you self-reliant or do you need someone around all the time? And if you are in a relationship, the two of you will need to have that “everything on the table” talk. What do you want in a poly relationship? What DON’T you want? What are your fears? What is okay and not okay to do? What about sex and keeping it safe? How will you schedule time together?

It can be a lot of hard work, but for many, the pay-offs are worth it....

“I feel like I’m building a loving family and a deep community,” Teresa affirms....

Read on (March 10, 2016).




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