"How is sex different with your other partners than it is with me?"
How much detail about your partner's intimacy with others do you really want to know, and how much about you are you okay with them sharing with another? Not every polycule is a happily transparent puppy pile, or needs to be.
A series about "modern love" on on HuffPost Weddings offered this video last Thursday (May 5): Watch This Couple Get Real About What Life Is Like In a Polyamorous Marriage (It was adapt or die). It appeared the same day on Cosmopolitan's site and has been picked up by the Daily Mail, the U.K.'s Sun and Metro — it's clearly making the rounds of syndication and perhaps is coming to an outlet near you. It originated from a video outfit called The Skin Deep.
A married couple read each other prepared questions, presumably from the producers. The first is about sex with others. There's hardly any more about poly specifically, though they've clearly struggled and processed about it. What we mostly see is simply a couple in deep talk (8:29).
The text intro on HuffPost:
Eilin and Andrew have been married four years, and pair are in a polyamorous relationship.
In the latest installment from “The And,” an interactive documentary about modern love, the couple asks each other deeply personal questions about their experiences outside the marriage.
In one instance, Eilin asks Andrew how sex is different with other partners than it is with her.
“How is it not? I mean, come on. It’s different,” Andrew replies. “There are different energies people give off and receive from each other. So, it’s not so much ‘how is it different?,’ it’s how could it be the same. It’s just not possible.
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