Archie & Veronica & Betty & Jughead became a quad, reveals 86-year-old Betty on "Riverdale." And other polyamory in the news.
The core four: Archie (reading a feeling-filled poem), Veronica, Betty, and Jughead in Riverdale.
Not just best friends forever, but a poly quad for their high school senior year, 1956-57.
By Emily Longeretta...In the show’s final episode, the teen drama jumps ahead 67 years. ... Since Betty’s memory is failing [at age 86], she’s excited by the chance to recall what happened to each of her high school friends, although she knows it may be a painful journey since it means saying goodbye all over again.Throughout the day, Jughead informs her what happened to everyone after graduation — and a bit about what was happening behind closed doors. Betty is reminded that she, Jughead, Archie and Veronica were in a quad relationship with each other for a year [as high school seniors], with all four of them agreeably intermingling and swapping who they were romantic with each night.
By Kelly Martinez...Then came perhaps the most shocking reveal of the episode. Remember the famous love triangle between Archie, Betty, and Veronica, and how the show made that even more complicated by adding Betty and Jughead and, most recently, Veronica and Jughead? Well, the core four turned into the core foursome. Yes, Riverdale actually went there."Turns out, after Angel Tabitha's last visit, I remembered what it was like being with Jughead — and being with Archie," Betty confided to Reggie. "And Archie and Veronica remembered what it was like being with each other. But Veronica and Jughead had just started a thing. And remembering all of that sort of, just, took the pressure off us having to make a single choice.""So the four of us realized that we could, and maybe should, just be — together. At the same time," she continued as Reggie bugged his eyes out. "Some nights Archie would sneak into my bedroom and Veronica would go home with Jughead. Other nights, Archie would spend the night at the Pembrooke and I'd go over to Jughead's. And sometimes, more often than you'd imagine, I would find my way to Veronica's."
By Kate BoveMany storylines in the Archie Comics hinge on the question of who all-American teen Archie Andrews will choose: Betty or Veronica. ... Much like comic book readers, viewers are split into different camps, which makes the stakes surrounding Riverdale's endgame pairings all the higher. The problem, of course, is that there's no way to appease every [fan]. However, Riverdale pulls off a fairly brilliant twist for the core four, all while ensuring that other fan-favorite pairings stick....Riverdale resolves the classic Archie Comics' dilemma by revealing that the four leads are in a polyamorous "quad."... It's a wonderful, fun twist that, honestly, should've come sooner.
"It's frustrating that Riverdale used its characters' non-monogamous relationship as a 'shocking twist' rather than engaging with an authentic portrayal of non-monogamy as simply being part of people's identities."Chamberlin continues, "We didn't see or hear anything about why these characters practice non-monogamy, what it means for them, the substance of their relationship agreements and communication practices, or any of the other underlying motivations and work that makes relationships of any type function."
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...But soon it all started to fall apart. “There weren’t any clear rules or boundaries with either of them, which, in retrospect, was a pitfall,” she reflects. ...He’d behave in thoughtless or even nasty ways, like being hot and cold, demanding everything be on his terms, or being dismissive of her feelings. Although these are hallmarks of a typically unhealthy relationship, Anna says “his rationale for justifying his behaviour was almost always rooted in the more theoretical aspects of polyamory”, which made her doubt the way she was feeling. Eventually, Michael’s behaviour became the subject of an intervention by his friends, who revealed that many women in the poly community had said they’d had bad experiences with him, too.“Because polyamory is so new for many people, there’s a risk of not being sure if the behaviours you’re seeing are genuinely not okay,” says Anna, “or just seem not okay because you don’t ‘get’ polyamory yet.”Anna isn’t alone... some people are getting it all wrong, intentionally or not. This might manifest as someone using the guise of consensual non-monogamy to be deceitful, enforce double standards, or just get away with bad dating behaviour.“There are a lot of people who’ll take advantage [of what consensual non-monogamy can offer, but some] are making assumptions that they can do polyamory without doing the research,” says psychotherapist Lesley Charles.... “You’ve got to be really anchored in knowing why you’re doing this, otherwise it’s just self-harm.”...“There’s a real distinction to draw between people who respectfully engage with their partners in polyamory, and sexual anarchy,” says 26-year-old Cass from London, who’s been polyamorous for four years. “Polyamory is more of a spiritual thing...."...“Now people have access to the terminology, they can dress up their unfaithfulness in this impenetrable language," [Cass] says. “It’s easy to disguise shitty behaviour as the other person not understanding the dynamic of it all.”...Still, Anna says it hasn’t shaken her faith in the radical positives of polyamory. “The possibilities are so exciting: more freedom, intimacy, and communication, in ways that we couldn’t imagine in monogamy,” she says. “But perhaps we have a tendency to try to have all of that too quickly without considering the time and effort it may take to thrive in what poly really is. If you rush that, you might get burned.”
“I’m in a relationship,” he said. “An open relationship and we’re polyamorous.”
I must have dimmed.“But I might not be in a few weeks, who knows,” he said, “it’s always changing.”I’d been reading a lot about polyamory and agreed with most of its core ideas. ...
...Most people are probably not looking to urgent care websites for an explanation of what happens when unicorns [the mythical-horse kind] consume ketamine.But that—and millions of other pages about things that don’t make much sense—have suddenly been popping up on the website of a New York City-based urgent care clinic called Nao Medical. The company, which says it has 16 locations in New York City and Long Island, appears to be using AI to generate a vast flood of well-written and sensibly structured—but not particularly accurate—posts about popular topics in an effort to rank higher on Google.One post on Nao Medical’s website discusses a medical condition it calls “Derek Jeter Herpes Tree,” which is not actually a medical condition.... Google just about anything you can think of and “Nao Medical” and you will find a long list of posts.
● Back to the real world (I hope). Another big glossary of polyworld terms appeared, again large but incomplete: A Field Guide to the Many Forms of Ethical Non-Monogamy (InsideHook, Aug. 7)
...Most popular depictions of ENM have been — and remain — narrow and problematic. ... Recent coverage of ENM... still tends to focus on “triads with two bisexual women and one man” who’re all in relationships with each other but not with anyone else, notes Leanne Yau, the founder of Poly Philia, an ENM education and content hub. “In reality, that’s a very small percentage of the polyamorous community.”...Says Morgan K, “If someone tells me they’re non-monogamous, that prompts me to ask several dozen more questions before I can understand what that even means for them.”...We reached out to about a dozen well-known and highly experienced ENM practitioners and educators, and pored over a dozen ENM guides and resource hubs to ensure [these definitions are] as accurate and nuanced as possible while still being accessible to complete ENM outsiders. ...
By Anna Iovine..."The reality is, it's a lot more talking than sex at the end of the day," said Dedeker Winston, co-host of the Multiamory podcast and co-author of Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships. "Talking supports good sex and sometimes lots of good sex but…the barrier to entry can be high, especially in particular, if you're opening up from a monogamous relationship."The first step is a lot of self inquiry and research," said Winston...."Obviously, insecurities and feelings come up in monogamy," said Heidegger. "But in non-monogamy, you can't really hide from them as much as you can in traditional monogamy."...
By Clare HandQueer women have been making their way to Eressos, a village on the Greek island of Lesvos, for over half a century. As the birthplace of Sappho, the village has become a place of pilgrimage for Sapphics; some holiday for a few weeks, others settle for a few decades. All are infatuated by the sense of safety, community and the breathtaking combination of sand, sea and spotless blue skies.
The arrival of the Rainbow’s Tribe, a polyamorous throuple – though they prefer ‘family’ to ‘throuple’ – Elizabeth, Cristina and Davi, sent tremors of excitement through Sappho’s hometown. They’d been living on a sailboat for five years and planned to make their way around the world. From the moment they docked, they’ve become an unmissable presence here – not because they waltz down the promenade hand-in-hand-in-hand – but because they bring a necessary dose of vibrancy and queerness to the community. They’re writers, academics and translators, each adorned in tattoos, with hair dyed every shade of turquoise and blue found in the Aegean Sea. It’s unclear who’s happier to have found the other– Eressos or the Rainbow’s Tribe.
The Rainbow's Tribe
...As they sailed to the island, they listened to a podcast, I’ll Never be Alone Anymore: The Story of the Skala Eressos Lesbian Community. “All of us had tears in our eyes,” says Davi, a 46-year-old transwoman born in Libya, “like what the fuck is this place? Of course we knew Sappho in the broadest terms, but we had no idea that there was a living community here.”They landed in September last year, when the International Women’s Festival was at its zenith and there were queer women as far as the eye could see. ...In less than a year, the Rainbow’s Tribe have fully rooted their lives into Eressian soil. ...The lovebirds have palpable chemistry. As we sit in a café on the seashore, they seamlessly bounce jokes and ideas off each other like they’re playing bat and ball in the sand. Their love story began with Davi and Elizabeth almost two decades ago at a writing competition in Colorado. ...
Dear How to Do It,My husband and I have been married for 11 years. For most of that time, we’d frequently invite other women into our marriage and bed. ... It’s been a little over three years since our last playdate, coinciding with the pregnancy and birth of our youngest child.Recently, my husband introduced me to a friend of his and suggested she be our new “date.” Our sex life is healthy and fun, but I’m not quite in the mood for extra entertainment right now. I’m tired from chasing a toddler and working full time. Thus, we’re juggling the idea of him pursuing this relationship on his own, and I’m open to the idea. She is as well.How do we do this? In the past, it’s been more like a “throuple” situation. We all communicated, were all on the same page, and were all very comfortable. But this is just a him-and-I vs. him-and-her situation. How do I navigate this? ...—Sitting This One Out ....
...From genuinely believing in the concept of true love to having my heart broken, trampled upon and crushed for pieces, I was forced to revisit a few concepts that have been ingrained in our minds since time immemorial — like monogamy. ... Perhaps it was this weight of being the provider for so many things [to a partner] that has ultimately led to the visible crumbling of the concept in this 21st century....A part of me wonders whether it has been this urge to break free from these set rules and guidelines that instigate the hidden rebel within people our age to cheat. But then the other part of me reminds me, the opposite of monogamy doesn’t have to be cheating, it has to be polyamory. And last I checked polyamory includes telling all your partners about the fact that you’re not exclusive to them. ...
The topic of Polyamory relationships has become a topic of discussion for those in marriage and the dating scene....When I meet Christabel Owino* at her shop in Nairobi CBD, she is busy engaging her customers and as soon as she is done, Owino grabs two chairs and she ushers me into her shop.Ready to share her story about polyamory relationships, Owino terms it as something interesting. ......Oscar Maina* who has been in a polyamorous relationship for a decade says it's the best decision he made in life."As we grow, we develop different feelings and discover we like different things in women, and once you are open about what you want, and very honest with the parties involved, your relationships will thrive," he says. ......To be in such relationships, one does not consider it as infidelity as all parties involved are aware of each other — the relationship is disclosed to everyone involved....
Viewing relationships through a poly lens can grant deeper insight on the roots of insecurity, entitlement, and jealousy.By Eleni...Positives:1. Helps you rethink the role of jealousy. ...2. Strong communication. ...3. Practice in mindfulness. ...4. Less pressure. ......The less ideal aspects:1. The question of time. ...2. Monogamy seems more efficient. Full cut-off of other options relieves cognitive burden. ... This frees time and brain space. [And] restrictions can help many people feel more grounded. ...
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I saw people who gave away almost everything for their relationships and wondered why they still felt unloved and unappreciated. I saw people who felt so guilty asking for or requiring anything from their partners that they twisted themselves into pretzels....
I came up with a list of rights that I believe a person has and must protect in order to remain a healthy individual. I also came up with a way of interacting and speaking that includes respecting each person's human rights, and also fosters bonding and connections in relationships....
This book is my attempt at sharing a complete system for finding and creating that beautiful balance between fostering a healthy self and fostering healthy non-monogamous relationships.
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to Ukrainian volunteers. If you have helped Ukrainians during this
year and a half, you may consider yourself to be one of them."
Here was a country with a tragic history that had at last begun to build, with great effort, a better society. What made Ukraine different from any other country I had ever seen—certainly from my own—was its spirit of constant self-improvement, which included frank self-criticism. For example, there’s no cult of Volodymyr Zelensky in Ukraine—a number of Ukrainians told me that he had made mistakes, that they’d vote against him after the war was won. Maxim Prykupenko, a hospital director in Lviv, called Ukraine “a free country aspiring to be better all the time.” The Russians, he added, “are destroying a beautiful country for no logical reason to do it. Maybe they are destroying us just because we have a better life.”
Ukraine's LGBT military unicorn.
The thorns and barbed wire
represent old restrictions
now being cut away.
Women fighters in a trench in the Donetsk region