"Polyamorous with children: A mom's story"
City Pages (Minneapolis / St. Paul)
Remember the alt-weekly cover story on poly in Minneapolis earlier this week? Now the writer has a followup story on the paper's website:
Read on (Oct. 15, 2012).
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Remember the alt-weekly cover story on poly in Minneapolis earlier this week? Now the writer has a followup story on the paper's website:
Polyamorous with children: A mom's story
By Patrick Strait
This past week we dove deep into the Twin Cities polyamory scene, to shed some light on how multiple people can co-exist in a loving, open relationship. If you haven't read it already, click here and do it now. (We'll wait.)
One point of interest in this week's feature was the idea that polyamorous people with children would be reluctant to speak with the media for fear of scrutiny and even possible legal repercussions. Turns out, that's not entirely true.
Julia Janousek from north Minneapolis -- her real name, no less -- reached out to City Pages this past week, offering to provide her perspective on being a polyamorous mother of two.
...So how did your kids react to you practicing poly?
The things with kids, is that when people are trying to hide something, it's exciting. But we just live our lives and don't really make a big deal out of it, so they don't really think anything of it either.
...Do your kids ever talk about you being poly with their friends?
My daughter has mentioned before how her friends don't really understand, so I'm assuming she talks to them about it a little. But none of her friends have stopped talking to her, and their moms haven't stopped talking to us, and I know that they know our situation.
...When that day comes when your son or daughter brings home their first boyfriend or girlfriend, are you going to encourage them to be poly themselves?
We'll let them figure out their own way. But I do hope that they don't go through the whole, "this boy broke up with me so my life is over" thing....
Read on (Oct. 15, 2012).
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Labels: kids, poly parenting
3 Comments:
Some people live in the kind of place where you can be this out, but many do not, through no fault of their own.
It's taken many years and a lot of work (meetups, info tables at Pride and other events, allying with other organizations, etc.) for St. Paul - Minneapolis to get this point. Even with how much the area has progressed, many within the community still aren't "out".
I've always wondered why people's first thoughts are "But what about the children?" when finding out I'm poly... It's not as if we perform some live action porno in front of them, any more than mono couples do... sigh... I am semi out... I live with both of my partners in the Southwest, and for work reasons, they are not out...
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