An Israeli newspaper looks at poly
|One flower, by Assaf Benharroch|
Polyamory means 'a multiplicity of loves,' and its aim is to overcome monogamous routine without resorting to lies and cheating. Who are the people drawn to this practice, and why are women are the ones leading the charge?
The article, by Gabriel Bukobza, was public when I read it yesterday but now it's behind a paywall. It was long rumination (called a "thumb sucker" in the newspaper biz) based on the author meeting people in Israel's poly community. The author found two distinct branches of the community: fluid young people of evenly mixed gender, and an older cohort of marrieds in their 30s and 40s in which women stand out as leaders and advocates. Much like in North America and Europe.
The author ruminated further about how this way of life brings more love and community, and addresses the boxed-in staleness that's the fate of most married couples. But, she says (as I recall), it has a certain superficiality that's doesn't match long-term monogamy. This she ties to people having been deprived of secure bonds with their parents in childhood, or something. She's a psychologist.
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