Polyignorance in Ireland
In Ireland the poly movement is in its infancy but definitely alive (thank you Randy!). A clueless therapy columnist at the leading daily newspaper The Irish Independent seems to get this, but is otherwise mostly at sea. The article begs for your informed comments. Go for it, and please represent us well.
Open marriages are on the rise here too
So, less than 15 years after divorce was legalised here, are the Irish open-minded enough for open marriage?
More married couples here are saying 'I Do' to polyamory, according to one relationship expert -- but are only likely to end up alone.
"It's definitely happening here on a small scale," says marriage therapist Owen Connolly, who runs a private practice in Stillorgan, Co Dublin. "But it's not something people are willing to boast about. Open marriage is really no different to swinging or wife-swapping -- and rarely lasts. I've never found two people who were completely committed to the idea.
"In my experience, there's always one party who would prefer to remain monogamous -- usually the woman. However, some of these women may agree to an open marriage because they think their happiness depends on their relationship."
(Unfortunately, that part is too often true.)
"Over the years, I've worked with a lot of couples to try and repair the damage done by an affair," the consultant psychologist adds.
"An open marriage shouldn't even be treated as a marriage. People think that they can divorce the physical from the emotional, but it doesn't work.
"There's no such thing as an 'open marriage' -- just a consensual affair."
See www.counsellor.ie DEIRDRE REYNOLDS
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Update, 4 p.m. EST: My, you guys are doing a good job with the comments there.
P.S.: Here's my earlier article on the emergence of a polyamory movement in Ireland.