"Kiwi 'triples' say that monogamy is not for all"

New Zealand Herald

One of the many places reprinting the U.K.'s recent Independent article on open marriages (the one starring Jenny Block) is "New Zealand's leading metropolitan newspaper" — which, this Sunday morning, adds a side article about a local triad:

Kiwi 'triples' say that monogamy is not for all

Steve sleeps with his wife every second night. The other nights he is in the next room, sleeping with his other wife.

The 54-year-old from Christchurch says he has happy and loving relationships with both women, all living together.

Steve says he has always been interested in polyamory relationships and now he has found one that works for all three of them.

He calls both women his wives: "We're not a couple, we're a triple."

He and his legal wife had been together for 10 years and married for six years when they welcomed another woman into their marriage in a "commitment ceremony" surrounded by friends and family.

"We had always been exploring the poly thing. We had considered it with other people but it had never come off as a long-term thing. We have an understanding that the western ideal of monogamy is not for everyone. It is a societal construct."

...He and his wife had met the other woman at a club in Christchurch two years ago. He fell in love with her as their friendship developed. His wife was supportive and also loves her, but they are just friends.

...His "second wife" moved into their home in February.

"The green-eyed monster does occasionally rear its head, but if we talk about it, it's fine," he adds....

- Joanne Carroll

Read the whole article; scroll down (Dec. 18, 2011).

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