Polyamory in the News
. . . by Alan M.

October 25, 2005

"The More the Marry-er"

New York Post

The tabloid New York Post is a fairly nasty Rupert Murdoch product, but on October 19th, to coincide with the opening of the movie "Three of Hearts" in town, the Post ran an excellent, long story by Chris Erikson on polyamory in the New York area:

...It involves committed, emotional relationships - but with multiple partners, and the full consent of everyone involved, whether it's a married couple with outside lovers, a menage a trois, or a single person with multiple partners.

"It just feels more right to me both emotionally and physically," says Justen Michael, the 32-year-old founder of the group Polyamorous NYC, who's been polyamorous since he had his first relationship with two men at 19. "There's just a much stronger connection when I'm with two people I care about than when I'm with one."

...The polyamory movement has a growing profile in the city in other ways as well: Founded in 2000, Michael's group hosts monthly meetings that draw up to a few dozen people and an annual Poly Pride Day in Central Park. It boasts an e-mail list of more than 800 people, that include married couples, straights, gays, lesbians and bisexuals. "It's a very hot movement," said Barbara Foster, a retired professor of Women's Studies at Hunter College, who calls polyamory "an important social movement."

Foster, who both studies polyamory and practices it with her husband of more than two decades, says that at meetings she sees a younger and younger crowd, whom she describes as "college-educated, curious, lively people"....

Read the whole article. See image of article with headlines and photos.


October 24, 2005

"Monogamy: Here Today, Gone Tomorrow"

Foreign Policy

For the September-October 2005 issue of Foreign Policy — about as serious an establishment journal as you can find — the editors asked various figures, "What ideas, values, or institutions that we take for granted may no longer be with us in 35 years?"

Jacques Attali, a Foreign Policy contributing editor and president of a microfinance organization in France, answered "monogamy." Though he doesn't use the word polyamory, it's exactly what he means:

Two hundred years ago, few people foresaw legalized divorce or open homosexuality — let alone gay marriage. Abstract art and jazz were unimaginable. Aesthetics, morals, and family relationships, it seems, are the bane of the futurologist. We constantly speculate about the future balance of power, looming conflicts, and emerging technologies. Yet somehow, we imagine that morals and aesthetics are immutable. So we forget to ask how conceptions of good and evil, acceptable and unacceptable, beauty and ugliness will change. And they will.

Monogamy, which is really no more than a useful social convention, will not survive. It has rarely been honored in practice; soon, it will vanish even as an ideal. I do not believe that society will return to polygamy. Instead, we will move toward a radically new conception of sentimental and love relationships. Nothing forbids a person from being in love with a few people at the same time. Society rejects this possibility today primarily for economic reasons — to maintain an orderly transmission of property — and because monogamy protects women against male excesses.

But these rationales are dissolving in the face of powerful new trends.... Just as most societies now accept successive love relationships, soon we will acknowledge the legality and acceptability of simultaneous love. For men and women, it will be possible to have partnerships with various people, who will, in turn, have various partners themselves. At long last, we will recognize that it is human to love different people at the same time.

Read the whole article.

Frankly I think this essay is over the top, at least for as soon as the year 2040. My own guess is that 80+ percent of people will always choose monogamy (at least in some relaxed form) if only because it's simpler. But it's certainly noteworthy that such a prediction gets aired in such a prestigious journal.

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