"How Polyamory Became the New Normal" (it says). "Monogamy? In This Economy?" goes on tour. Smart symbiosexual unicorns. Best poly games. Baaad cops. And more.
The article consists of five profiles of Canadian polyfamilies and how they
got to be where they are, presented as first-person accounts. Excerpts:
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Polyamory is suddenly everywhere—and it’s changing the face of love, marriage and even child-rearing. Five intimate stories of non-monogamy.By Rosemary CounterFor proof of polyamory’s move into the Canadian mainstream, look no further than our easternmost province. In 2018, a judge in Newfoundland and Labrador ruled that a polyamorous trio of two men and a woman were all legal parents to their child—ruling against the province, which had refused to list more than two parents. “Society is continuously changing,” the judge wrote, “and family structures are changing along with it.” In 2021, a British Columbia Supreme Court judge issued a comparable decision on behalf of a similar “triad” relationship....Though throuples dominate pop-culture depictions, polyamorous relationships come in endless shapes, sizes and configurations, comprising people of all ages, genders, orientations and identities. ......We spoke to polyamorous people about how they make their configurations work in practical terms. How do they negotiate child care, date nights and sleeping arrangements? How do they deal with the jealousy and confusion that can arise? Here are five Canadian families on what polyamory means in their lives and how and why it works for them. ...The Long-Distance Lovers
By Tara Lynne FrancoI discovered polyamory seven years ago, in my mid-40s, quite by accident. ...I met my current partner, André, on OkCupid in 2017. Neither of us identified as polyamorous at the time. About a month into dating, during an intimate moment, André playfully suggested that it would be helpful to have an “extra set of hands.” I replied, “That would be hot.” That night, we set up a joint dating profile to see if we could meet someone. ......From there we branched out, attending lifestyle clubs and parties—which fall more into the “swinging” category than into committed polyamory. We met couples and then dated others independently. ... What André and I realized early on is that open communication is the foundation for successful and secure polyamory—we got a lot of practice navigating new situations, like when I was jealous of a girlfriend of André’s who I felt was “cooler” than me, or when one of us went on a vacation with a partner on their own, or just seeing the other person having a really good time with someone at a party.
We learned a lot over the past seven years. Given that André is a sex-positive psychotherapist and I’m a life and relationship coach, it seemed a natural fit to teach others what we’ve learned. We started with a Facebook community, then developed some programs and services and now our Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast. We love seeing people thrive in their relationships. ...The Co-Parents
By Warren Baird...I met Blue in 1996, just after graduating from university. We were never totally exclusive, and about a year into our relationship, we decided we would be polyamorous. I don’t want to own someone, nor have someone own me.... In 2007, Blue got pregnant with our daughter, Kaia.At the time, Blue was also in a close relationship with another partner, Jbash. We knew the dynamics would transform when a baby entered the picture, and he knew he’d need to step back or step in. ... The three of us talked carefully before we made our decision: we merged to form a single family unit, and together raised Kaia.Since 2007, we’ve all lived together. ... JBash and I earned good incomes, but Blue didn’t work outside the home due to some health issues. Two incomes to three people is a much better ratio than one income to two. Living together meant we could afford a bigger home in a nicer neighbourhood, and pool money for expenses.And just as having three incomes is better, so are three parents.... To Kaia, Jbash, whom I consider a co-husband of Blue’s, is “Papa” and I’m “Dad.” She’s never felt the need to explain our lives to anyone, and rarely even mentions it—half the kids she goes to school with have split families, and plenty have step-parents living in different houses. We must have done something right, anyway—she just graduated at the top of her class as valedictorian.The Full House
By Sarah Jean Stewart...That night, she surprised me by telling me that she and her husband were interested in dating me as a couple. I was even more surprised by Adam’s reaction: if I wanted to explore their proposition, he said, I shouldn’t stop on his account. So, for about six months, I dated my friend and her husband. It was a beautiful experience, but it was their first foray into polyamory and it didn’t last. ...Then we found Jenn and Josh. ......In the span of less than a decade, I had gone from knowing very little about polyamory to having multiple partners: Adam, Jenn, Josh, Nick and Chris, though he lives in a different city so we see each other less often. There was a time in my life when I wouldn’t have considered that a healthy relationship, but being polyamorous has made me see that one person doesn’t have to fulfill all of my emotional and physical needs. It took me a long time to learn that....Two years ago, we started looking for a house big enough to accommodate as many of us as possible, and last January, we moved into a big Victorian home near Ottawa. There’s me and Adam and our four-year-old son and my four daughters. There’s Jenn and Josh and their son Julian, who’s 21. And there’s PJ, a friend of ours who none of us are romantically involved with, but who’s part of the family. Adam and I share a bedroom, my teenage daughters share a huge room with bunk beds, PJ and Julian share a bedroom, and Jenn and Josh have their suite.We’ve got the living arrangements down, but time management is a different story. We have a half-dozen Messenger threads going at any time and logistical meetings every day: where are the cars going? Who has what work to do? ...It’s helpful to have so many people to share the financial load, but the biggest benefit is the sense of community. ... We’re surrounded by epic love, and that supports us through times that might otherwise decimate us. Living this way, and bringing up our families this way, is incredible. Even if we took the romance out, I wouldn’t go back.The No-Secrets Polycule
By Silver Olatunde...There was no big conversation about polyamory at the time. I knew he had other lovers; he knew I wanted to keep exploring. ... We also dated people together....Three years ago, we met Acintya and Pierre-Yves at a music festival, where Chris was doing sound and I was building outhouses. They were running the first-aid tent. ... It took a year and a half, but eventually we were all going out. We’re subtle and slow, so it took a while. Now we’ve met their children—five of them, from seven to 20 years old—and they’ve met my daughter....In the past, when we’ve gone through rough periods, we’ve made a point of not expanding our polycule—expansion means accommodating other people’s needs and desires, and if that isn’t happening in the primary relationship, it’s not likely to work by just adding more. If the timing isn’t right, we’ll wait. ... The primary relationship comes first—and we have a “no-secrets” policy, if only because we don’t have the capacity to lie.Today, in addition to Chris and Acintya and Pierre-Yves, our polycule includes Chris’s Wife 1, albeit platonically. There’s also Chris’s previous lover Bexxie, as well as our newest love, Liah. We’ve known her for years, and it took her a long time to accept this side of herself. But it’s so important to allow people to be themselves on their own timeline. You make your own polyamory, and you define it every day.The Reformed Monogamists
By Kristie Courtnell...Denis’s profile said, “Full disclosure: I’m still living with my ex-wife, and we’re still friends.” That might have scared some people off, but to me it seemed refreshingly honest. ......We talked at length and tried different relationship dynamics to make things work—until eventually, he suggested monogamy. So, we closed the relationship and, for six months, we really tried. But it changed things. We were reluctant to express attraction to other people.... We couldn’t be ourselves. ... He gave me the monogamous relationship I thought I wanted, but it turned out I just wanted to know that our love was secure, and that I was enough. Two years ago, we opened it up again. We live together, so he’s my nesting partner, but we’re also dating Heather, with whom we’ve formed a throuple. She’s intelligent, athletic, well-travelled, free-spirited and beautiful.Everything is different now. My insecurities are manageable. Denis gave me what I thought I wanted, only for me to realize that real security doesn’t come from any one relationship style. It comes from understanding ourselves and maintaining open communication with our partners.
● Another good article with an overclaiming title: The story of Gen Z and the rise of polyamory; How values, openness,
and digital savvy are transforming modern relationships. It's in WeHeart, an online magazine "exploring the
intersections between art, design, lifestyle and travel." (Aug. 28)
It’s official: Gen Z is rewriting the rulebook on love, and monogamy is getting the boot. [Nope, monogamy will always be the right choice for many, maybe most. –Ed.] Consensual nonmonogamy, an umbrella concept that includes polyamory, is gaining traction as it allows individuals to pursue multiple intimate relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. The rise of polyamory is in full flow. ...
It goes on to be a long, helpful Poly 101, including smart warnings to newbies and
not-so-newbies, but again it skips the promised cultural hows and
whys.
● Two new books are just out:
Monogamy? In This Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and
Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory, by Laura Boyle (Jessica Kingsley Publishers). Boyle is starting a multi-city book and speaking tour.
This, I predict, will become the must-have book around the
house for polyfamilies and other cohabiting polycules. At 190 pages it's
a condensed, outstandingly practical, often blunt handbook telling how a
wide variety of poly households navigate the realities of living
together with various different degrees of sharing. Boyle is an energetic and diligent writer (her first book was
Ready for Polyamory, 2021) and a
blogger,
podcaster, activist, and personal coach. She has lived the non-mono life for
over 17 years, has "built a large and caring local polyamorous community
here in Connecticut," and is currently living solo while co-parenting her
kids.
She didn't just draw on her own experiences. She surveyed 468 people who
were or had been living in households of three or more adults, then did
deeper-dive interviews with 128 of them. Their wide variety of
experiences and solutions sometimes surprised even her.
A rave review of the book comes from possibly the best-qualified person
in America to pass judgment: Kathy Labriola, poly for more than 50 years
and a specialist polygroup relationship counselor in Berkeley for most
of those decades. She has seen it all. Many times.
From her
review on her website:
Anyone considering moving in with their polyamorous partners should read this book FIRST! In addition, those already living together in a polyamorous triad, throuple, quad or other polyamorous family unit could benefit from Laura Boyle’s no-nonsense approach. Her very practical book provides guidance on navigating the choppy waters of space, money, privacy, noise, landlords and rental agreements, shared mortgages, housework, parenting and custody arrangements, breakups, and ex-spouses.These are key issues which have proven to be deal-breakers for countless polycules! So the sooner the better for each person to think these important core issues through, get clarity on what their needs are and what they can and can’t live with, and decide whether this particular group of people are compatible to live together as a family. Unfortunately, many poly configurations do not realize their areas of incompatibility until after they move in together and things quickly blow up.
(A wide-ranging interview with Labriola is up on the
Evolving Love Podcast, Polyamorous for 50 Years: Kathy Labriola. [Aug. 16; 1 hr 06 min.])
Another review of the book comes from Amy of the
Coffee and Kink
site, including chapter-by-chapter breakdowns. It concludes,
All the way through, Boyle’s insights are peppered with real-life stories from some of her hundreds of interviewees. These bring the theory to life and show some of the real-world challenges, joys, and problem-solving that takes place in polyamorous families.I found this book to be a fairly quick read, with mostly relatively short chapters. Plenty of subheadings break it up into bite-sized chunks. They also make it easy to find the exact information you’re looking for. Boyle covers a hell of a lot of ground in this relatively concise book. She also signposts to other resources where appropriate.
● Next new book: More Than Two, second edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and
Integrity, by Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin (Thornapple Press)
When the first edition of More Than Two appeared in 2014 it
became the polyamory movement's biggest hit since
The Ethical Slut in 1997. By 2021 it had sold
almost 200,000 copies, even as co-authors Franklin Veaux and Eve
Rickert went through a fraught and exceedingly public breakup. It
left Rickert with second thoughts about some of the book's content and overall direction. And, in these ten years, the whole CNM landscape
itself has changed a lot.
Her updated, second edition is just out, co-authored with Andrea Zanin, a
queer and kink consent expert and activist and fellow Canadian. Its new direction is indicated by the new subtitle and symbolized by the cover art.
In her introduction Rickert writes,
This book could not have existed without [co-author Zanin]. While the bones of the original are there, we've revised every bit of it, and added significant new content. The book you hold in your hands now is the culmination of ten years of unlearning and relearning, grief and heartbreak, unravelling and breaking and remaking. It's a triumph and an apology, an attempted righting of past wrongs and a prayer for the future, a tiny — and, I hope, humble — contribution to the vital project of love.
What's changed in its approach? In the "Finding Your Compass"
chapter, Rickert and Zanin write
As nonmonogamous communities have moved toward more flexible models that prize autonomy and flexibility, some have arrived at a hyper-individualist, even capitalist approach wherein everyone is responsible for their own feelings, anyone can walk away at any time, and people are perceived to have no, or almost no, responsibility to others, even their closest intimates. This framework has been called poly libertarianism, and to be quite honest, a lot of it was encouraged by parts of the first edition of this book. We believe that while some of these ideas are rooted in good principles, when they are not balanced with responsibility, they can lead to a lot of harm.
In parallel, much of the organized poly world in the last 10 years has
leaned toward the same shift in philosophy.
● And a book on the way. You knew it was coming: Polyamory for Dummies will be published this December.
Fingers crossed. It'll be hefty, 352 pages.
● The local-polyfamily newspaper profile is a genre that
never grows old. In the Minnesota Star Tribune: A gay, multi-ethnic, chicken-farming family is part of
Minnesota’s emerging polyamorous community (Aug. 20, registration walled). The StarTrib, based in
Minneapolis, is the state's largest newspaper and the eighth
largest-circulation daily paper (digital plus print) in the US.
You might be able to get this kind of coverage just by calling your
local paper and asking if they're interested!
In this case the reporter's interest was apparently piqued by the
annual
MNPolyCon in July.
"Bryan Demeritte, a Unitarian pastor and farmer, center, stands with his husband,
Deron Demeritte, right, and Joshua Rodriguez, left, on their Loving More
Farmstead in Waseca." (Nicole Neri / Minnesota Star Tribune)
By Richard Chin, feature reporterBryan and Deron Demeritte and Joshua Rodriguez don’t exactly make up a stereotypical rural household.It’s true that they hunt and fish and raise chickens, fruits and vegetables on their 10-acre farmstead in Waseca, surrounded by fertile rolling fields of soybean and corn.But Bryan, a full-time farmer and a part-time Unitarian pastor and seminary professor, describes Deron and Joshua as his two husbands.Think of it as Green Acres, nonmonogamy style. Or polyamory among the chickens.Bryan, 52, is white, a former teacher who grew up Baptist in Missouri. Deron, 38, is Black and originally from the Bahamas. He works as an industrial and commercial HVAC foreman and has been legally married to Bryan for 11 years. Joshua (who plans to change his last name to Demeritte) is a 24-year-old restoration company project manager. He’s mostly Latino and grew up in Boston as the son of immigrant parents from the Dominican Republic and El Salvador.Joshua has been in a committed relationship with Bryan for five years. He and Deron consider themselves as brother husbands. ...The three recently moved into their five-bedroom ranch house in the small southern Minnesota town as business and relationship partners in what they’ve called Loving More Farmstead.Their spread includes three barns, a field of corn, four small vineyards, an apple orchard, a couple of geese and 72 juvenile Heritage chickens that will earn their keep laying eggs for market. They’ll be adding a market vegetable garden and begin raising sheep for lamb meat next.There are other farmers of color. And other gay farmers. But Bryan said he doesn’t know of any other gay, nesting, polyamorous, multiracial farming households.So far, the Loving More trio said they haven’t had any problems fitting into their rural community. “Were the happiest we’ve ever been,” Bryan said. “I think people in this Minnesota sense are very welcoming, but they also just leave you alone.” ...-----------------------------------...The local nonmonogamy group called MNPoly reports its membership has grown to more than 4,000 members, up from about 1,000 in early 2020. More than 100 people attended the nonprofit’s fifth annual convention, MNPolyCon, held this summer at a community center in St. Louis Park. ......Bryan Demeritte led a session called “Non-Monogamy 101″ in which he said terms like “ethical nonmonogamy” and “consensual nonmonogamy” are giving way to a simpler, nonjudgmental umbrella term: nonmonogamy. ...Demeritte is writing a book to be published next year called “The More Love the Better,” which he said will describe nonmonogamy in the 21st century from the theological perspective.“Someone you know is nonmonogamous,” Demeritte said. “It is becoming more and more mainstream. It’s time to let people be who they want to be and live the way they want to live.”
● Some lively family-of-origin drama made it to Reddit's "Am I The
Asshole?" section and went a bit viral. On
BoredPanda: Man Rejects Bride’s BFF’s Polyamorous Partners To Prevent
Family Backlash, Receives An Ultimatum (Aug. 20). Spoiler: Amid the uproar, the AH admitted fault
and it ends happily.
● 6 Best Games With Healthy Polyamorous Dating Options (GameRant, Aug. 23). "Not many [computer] games have managed to depict polyamory without bias, but a few titles take big strides in this regard. ..."
The chosen top six (with reviews) are the Hades franchise,
Pathfinder: Kingmaker, Baldur's Gate 3, The
Waylanders, The Sims 4: Lovestruck, and Pumpkin
Days.
● A discussion in the growing CNM-studies world has been started by Daniel Cardoso, longtime academic researcher and conference organizer from Portugal. Reframing the role of communication in consensual and/or ethical (non)monogamies: A proposal for a change in academic terminology (ver. 1) Online Aug. 5, 2024.
I argue that naming conventions are some of the most important – and dangerous – tools and acts that researchers have at their disposal and, thus, should be employed with the utmost care.Considering the ongoing discussions – both inside and outside of academia – around the terms “consensual non-monogamies” and “ethical non-monogamies”, this essay proposes a novel solution to help create less morally-slanted, and overreaching... umbrella terms.
And speaking of terminology,
● New word! Symbiosexuality: New study validates
attraction to established couples as a real phenomenon (PsyPost, Aug. 28).
Recent research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior has identified a phenomenon called symbiosexuality, where individuals find themselves attracted to the dynamics within existing relationships. These findings offer a new perspective on human desire, suggesting that attraction can be more complex than we previously understood.The concept of symbiosexuality emerged from observations in cultural and academic discourses that some people are drawn to the relationships between others rather than to individuals themselves. Despite this, the phenomenon had remained largely unexplored...“As part of the polyamorous community, I have heard people talk openly about experiencing attraction to established couples,” explained study author Sally W. Johnston....These findings... challenge the ongoing invisibility and invalidation of and stigma and discrimination against such attractions, within both the polyamorous community and broader mononormative culture.
In my experience, healthy "conscious unicorns" (of any
gender) — who not only fall in love with a couple and their dynamic but also know how to look out for their own interests — are fairly
common. An example: Caroline Giuliani
wrote
in Vanity Fair,
When a couple invites me into their bed, I not only get welcomed into the midst of their preexisting connection, but also get to forge a new one with them based on their trust that I will respect the boundaries of their relationship. This is a vulnerable position all around: for the couple in opening their connection to a newcomer, and for the unicorn in entering a power dynamic where they are the only one without an established teammate.
So don't be prejudiced, folks.
The research paper itself came out last April, and the term
symbiosexual originated1 back in 2021. But now it's suddenly getting news attention:
in the New York Post, Daily Mail, MSN, Toronto Sun, HuffPost UK,
Deutsche Welle
in Germany, the Hindustan Times and NDTV in India, more. Looks like it's here to stay.
1. Johnston, S. W. & Schoenfeld, C. (2021).
Symbiosexual: Introducing a term for sexual/romantic attraction to
couples. Poster presentation, Society for the Scientific Study of
Sexuality, San Juan, Puerto Rico.
● ACAB is an ugly overstatement, but this sure doesn't
help: Lawsuit claims Kansas dad targeted by police after ending
polyamorous relationship with officer (KCTV-5 News, Kansas City, Aug. 28)
...The complaint filed on Wednesday... claimed Smith attempted to end his part in a polyamorous relationship with Officer Eric Windler and his wife, after which he was ruthlessly targeted. [It alleges] the arrest was the result of a “deeply flawed investigation and a gross misuse of police authority.”
Smith was arrested and convicted for allegedly making off with his ex-wife's car despite "the facts around the ownership of the vehicle in question," says the lawsuit.
... Alongside DA Howe and Officer Windler, the lawsuit names officers Christopher Tritt, Kevin Curry and Brandon Fox. ... Smith argued his arrest, confinement and prosecution were intentionally orchestrated despite clear evidence of his innocence. ...
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Finally, because this situation is absolutely not going
away,
Here is why I've been ending posts
to this polyamory news site with
Ukraine: I've seen too many progressive movements die out, or
get wiped out, because they failed to scan the wider world
accurately and understand their position in it
strategically.
We polyamorous people are a small, weird minority of social-rule
breakers. Increasingly powerful people call us a threat to society, religion, and nation — because by living successfully outside their
worldview, we expose its incompleteness.
Our freedom to choose our relationship structures, and
to speak up for ourselves about the truth of ourselves,
is just one way we depend on a free and pluralistic society that respects people's dignity to create their own lives, to access facts, and to speak of what they know.
Such a society is possible only where people have
reasonably good power to govern themselves, combined with legal structures that are at least supposed to guarantee the
rights of all.
Such rulers and would-be rulers seek to stamp out other
people's freedom to choose their lives — by
intimidation, repressive laws, inflammatory
disinformation and public incitement, stacking courts, and sometimes, eventually,
artillery.
For what it's worth, Polyamory in the News received more
pagereads from pre-invasion Ukraine over the years
(56,400) than from any other country in eastern Europe.
For those of us born since World War II, this is the most consequential war of our lifetime. Because we have entered another time when calculating
fascism, linking up at home and abroad, is rising and sees freedom and liberalism and
social tolerance as weak, degenerate,
delusional — inviting easy pushovers. As Russia thought it saw
in Ukraine. The whole world is watching what we will do
about it. Starting with China, with its eyes on Taiwan.
Background: "The United States has a much higher stake in Russia's
war on Ukraine than most people think." More: "If we stop supporting Ukraine, then everything gets
worse, all of a sudden, and no one will be talking
about “fatigue” because we will all be talking about
disaster."
The coming times may require hard things of us. We don't get to choose the time and place in
history we find ourselves born into. We do get to choose
how we respond to it.
Need a little help bucking up? Play this. Another version. More? Some people on the eastern front trying to hold onto an open society. (TW: war
is awful.) Maybe your own granddad did this from a
trench facing Hitler's tanks — for you, and us,
because a world fascist movement was successfully
defeated that time, opening the way for the rest of
the 20th century.
But the outcome didn't look good for a couple of
years then, either. Popular history remembers the 1945
victory over the Nazis and the joyous homecoming. Less
remembered are the defeats and grim prospects from
1941 through early 1943.
Remember, these people say they are doing it for us too.
They are correct. The global struggle between a free, open future and a fearful
revival of the dark past that's shaping up, including in our own country, is still in its early stages. The
outcome is again uncertain, and it will determine the 21st
century and the handling of all its other problems.
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PS: Ukraine should not be idealized as the paragon of an open democratic society. For
instance, ‘A Big Step Back’: In Ukraine, Concerns Mount Over
Narrowing Press Freedoms (New York Times, June 18, 2024). And
it has quite the history of being run by corrupt oligarchs —
leading to the Maidan Uprising of 2013, the Revolution of
Dignity in 2014, and Zelensky's overwhelming election in
2019 as the anti-corruption candidate. So they're working on that. And they're stamping hard on the old culture of everyday, petty
corruption. More on that. More; "Ukraine shows that real development happens when people believe they have an
ownership stake in their own societies."
Wrote US war correspondent George Packer in The Atlantic early in the war,
Here was a country with a tragic history that had at last begun to build, with great effort, a better society. What made Ukraine different from any other country I had ever seen—certainly from my own—was its spirit of constant self-improvement, which included frank self-criticism. For example, there’s no cult of Volodymyr Zelensky in Ukraine—a number of Ukrainians told me that he had made mistakes, that they’d vote against him after the war was won. Maxim Prykupenko, a hospital director in Lviv, called Ukraine “a free country aspiring to be better all the time.” The Russians, he added, “are destroying a beautiful country for no logical reason to do it. Maybe they are destroying us just because we have a better life.”
They have a word there, with a deep history, for the
horizontal, self-organized, mutual get-it-done that grows from community social trust: hromada. It's been keeping them going to the extent they've been able. We polyfolks often dream of creating something like that
community spirit in miniature, in our polycules and
networks. Occasionally we succeed.
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Social attitudes in Ukraine are mostly traditional, rooted
in a thousand years of the Orthodox Church. But in the last
generation the ideal of modern European civil society has
become widely treasured. The status of women has fast
advanced, especially post-invasion. More than 43,000 women volunteer in the armed forces, flooding traditionally
male bastions — including as combat officers, artillery gunners, tankers, battlefield medics,
snipers, and infantry. Some LGBT folx in the armed forces display symbols of LGBT pride on their uniforms, with official approval, whereas in Russia it's a
prison-worthy crime for even a civilian to show a rainbow
pin or "say gay." A report on Ukraine's LGBT+ and feminist acceptance revolutions. Another. Another. Another. War changes things.
Polyfolks are like one ten-thousandth of what's at stake globally. Ukraine must have our full material backing for as long
as it takes them to win their security, freedom, and
future. Continue to speak up for it.
A Russian writer grieves: "My country has fallen out of time."
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Women defenders on our world's eastern front |
Update August 28, 2024: Two years later Vidma
is still alive, still with her mortar unit, still at the
front, and posting TikToks. A young girl who looks high-school age showed up
to join them. Another vid with her. Their lives, and their promising society, depend on us.
And maybe our own? Says Maine's independent Senator Angus King,
Whenever people write to my office [asking why we are supporting Ukraine,] I answer, 'Google Sudetenland, 1938.' We could have stopped a murderous dictator who was bent on geographic expansion…at a relatively low cost. The result of not doing so was 55 million deaths.
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